something i spend way too much time thinking about
every time it comes around, the refrain is just as pungent as the first time i ever heard it:
"So what is love then? is it dictated or chosen? does it sing like the hymns of a thousand years, or is it just pop emotion? And if it ever was there, and it left, does it mean it was never true? and to exist it must elude...... "
-the indigo girls
There is no presribed right time to bring up the L word in a relationship because every relationship is different, and yet i still think in terms of time and other concrete boundaries. how about when you feel it? but how do you ever know for sure? is it the real thing or do i just lack the words to otherwise express myself correctly and by default leap to the most convenient choice?
thinking back, I have never, ever regretted saying it, to anyone, nomatter if it was to late, to early, never the right time or just the right time. so why do i worry?
relationships perplex me. there are hormones that bombard your system when you are falling in "love" with someone... making you think things only your body really thinks perhaps? apparently these hormones wear off in 6 months to a year, but I have never waited that long to make up my mind. So what is love then? is it just hormones or is it some profound emotion? and does it matter at all....
because it really matters the most.... in the words of Viktor Frankl,
"A thought transfixed me: for the first time in my life i saw the truth as it is set into song by so many poets, proclaimed as the final wisdom by so many thinkers - the truth - that love is the ultimate and highest goal to which man can aspire."
I can't say i really disagree. .. the people we love infuse our lives with meaning... and meaning, acording to Frankl, is what we are all searching for in our lives.
I know i'm being way cheesy. I'm sorry. I'm just thinking about someone and i'm trying really hard not to mess it up because i'm really happy. I am really, really happy. I don't care if it's hormones or not.
My friend said her dad proposed to her mom after one week of dating. he proposed again after another week, and she accepted. another friends parents said they dated for about four months before they were engaged. another friend's parents started dating in high school... and are still really happy. in fact, they all seem really happy. and then there are those couples who seem so in love and so right for one another and then they break up after an eternity... or a few months.
how did those couples know? I know a relathionship is, in many ways, whatever you put into it... but I when i see old couples who still exhibit PDAs...I (after throwing up in my mouth a little) wonder if they somehow knew when they met one another.
... because i've felt that way for periods of time before... and then that has faded away for one reason or another. It doesn't mean it wasn't meaningful, because every relationship I've ever had has taught me more about what i ultimately want... and maybe i'm not through learning yet, but I am keeping my fingers crossed that this time it doesn't just fade away.
"So what is love then? is it dictated or chosen? does it sing like the hymns of a thousand years, or is it just pop emotion? And if it ever was there, and it left, does it mean it was never true? and to exist it must elude...... "
-the indigo girls
There is no presribed right time to bring up the L word in a relationship because every relationship is different, and yet i still think in terms of time and other concrete boundaries. how about when you feel it? but how do you ever know for sure? is it the real thing or do i just lack the words to otherwise express myself correctly and by default leap to the most convenient choice?
thinking back, I have never, ever regretted saying it, to anyone, nomatter if it was to late, to early, never the right time or just the right time. so why do i worry?
relationships perplex me. there are hormones that bombard your system when you are falling in "love" with someone... making you think things only your body really thinks perhaps? apparently these hormones wear off in 6 months to a year, but I have never waited that long to make up my mind. So what is love then? is it just hormones or is it some profound emotion? and does it matter at all....
because it really matters the most.... in the words of Viktor Frankl,
"A thought transfixed me: for the first time in my life i saw the truth as it is set into song by so many poets, proclaimed as the final wisdom by so many thinkers - the truth - that love is the ultimate and highest goal to which man can aspire."
I can't say i really disagree. .. the people we love infuse our lives with meaning... and meaning, acording to Frankl, is what we are all searching for in our lives.
I know i'm being way cheesy. I'm sorry. I'm just thinking about someone and i'm trying really hard not to mess it up because i'm really happy. I am really, really happy. I don't care if it's hormones or not.
My friend said her dad proposed to her mom after one week of dating. he proposed again after another week, and she accepted. another friends parents said they dated for about four months before they were engaged. another friend's parents started dating in high school... and are still really happy. in fact, they all seem really happy. and then there are those couples who seem so in love and so right for one another and then they break up after an eternity... or a few months.
how did those couples know? I know a relathionship is, in many ways, whatever you put into it... but I when i see old couples who still exhibit PDAs...I (after throwing up in my mouth a little) wonder if they somehow knew when they met one another.
... because i've felt that way for periods of time before... and then that has faded away for one reason or another. It doesn't mean it wasn't meaningful, because every relationship I've ever had has taught me more about what i ultimately want... and maybe i'm not through learning yet, but I am keeping my fingers crossed that this time it doesn't just fade away.