Just when I thought I couldn't love Patrick Stewart more.
warning: links and videos in this post might be triggering.
So between Amy Dickinson utterly failing to get why saying that a rape victim was the "victim of her own horrible judgment" is not only inappropriate but heinous and a thirteen-year-old girl committing suicide when the adults in her life subjected her to a campaign of shame because she showed a picture of her boobs to another kid, I've been in a screen-punching kind of mood lately regarding stupid fucking goddamn victim-blaming rape culture.
(I swear to God, this is why I came up with Saying Yes! Because you can't fucking win, a lot of the time; the way it's constructed so often, sex isn't supposed to be about you and your desires. Not if you're "the woman," whatever the fuck that even means. But you know what's actually sexier? When both partners have acknowledged desire and agency. And you know what else? The right to say yes also includes the right to say no. And you know what else else? When a kid does something that, in hindsight, might not have been the best idea, it doesn't render her a fallen woman. You don't need to tell her that what she did was badevilwrong. She's been hearing that exact same shit her entire life, most likely. I mean, fuck, is it so hard to teach kids that their bodies are their own, that they should be free to explore their bodies within the limit of what makes them comfortable -- a limit that only they can determine, by the way -- and that they're never entitled to someone else's body?
Apparently.)
So this speech about domestic violence that Patrick Stewart delivered on behalf of Amnesty International broke my heart.
Mr. Stewart, you are a class act, and thank you for saying this, even if I have to wonder whether we should know this all already.
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So between Amy Dickinson utterly failing to get why saying that a rape victim was the "victim of her own horrible judgment" is not only inappropriate but heinous and a thirteen-year-old girl committing suicide when the adults in her life subjected her to a campaign of shame because she showed a picture of her boobs to another kid, I've been in a screen-punching kind of mood lately regarding stupid fucking goddamn victim-blaming rape culture.
(I swear to God, this is why I came up with Saying Yes! Because you can't fucking win, a lot of the time; the way it's constructed so often, sex isn't supposed to be about you and your desires. Not if you're "the woman," whatever the fuck that even means. But you know what's actually sexier? When both partners have acknowledged desire and agency. And you know what else? The right to say yes also includes the right to say no. And you know what else else? When a kid does something that, in hindsight, might not have been the best idea, it doesn't render her a fallen woman. You don't need to tell her that what she did was badevilwrong. She's been hearing that exact same shit her entire life, most likely. I mean, fuck, is it so hard to teach kids that their bodies are their own, that they should be free to explore their bodies within the limit of what makes them comfortable -- a limit that only they can determine, by the way -- and that they're never entitled to someone else's body?
Apparently.)
So this speech about domestic violence that Patrick Stewart delivered on behalf of Amnesty International broke my heart.
Click to viewMr. Stewart, you are a class act, and thank you for saying this, even if I have to wonder whether we should know this all already.
.