one of my happily rare mope broadcasts

[psymarie]

in wiser and more reckless days, i knew long distance relationships sucked and weren't worth it. part of this was the twisted but sadly valid and proven logic that if something sucks and i miss my significant other, i'll do reckless stupid things for comfort and fuck it all up. i'm not so restless now, and i trust myself not to be an idiot, but

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[athenelight]

**nods**

after...eleven months and two days of a relationship with well over half of it apart, I hear ya sister. long distance can be truly frustrating and incredibly difficult.

on the other hand, you do become accustomed to it, until you no longer notice the ache anymore. After a time it becomes easier to put out of your mind. As terrible as it is, you compartmentalize a little. The trick is to do so without crossing that line where you drift apart.

Some of the things that have really helped me an jaemmie are:

- much phone talking
- skype with video (it's nice to be able to see the other's face...)
- email updates in the morning or afternoon about what's happened to you today and little things you might not remember to include on the phone
- handwritten letters
- lots of visits (if possible)
- and, because it is important especially if you can't see each other often, phone sex.

There is an upside to long distance: because you are lacking the physical presence of your significant other, you must MUST rely on constant communication, and in so doing you set down habits of good communication that are often lacking in near-by relationships where it might not seem as necessary because of the immediacy of the person. I know it's hard now, but, in the long run, it will only serve to make the two of you closer and better able to maintain a long-term (not just a long-distance) relationship.