Thoughts for healthy relationships.
reprinted from a post of mine in polyamory
There was a recent post by a young user to which I wanted to comment. By the time I went to post it the original post was deleted. I still want to share part of what I wrote because I think it pertains to all relationships and it is short, simple and to the point. Actually I've expanded it a bit for general consumption.
Understanding these things you will not only help you build strong relationships but will help you make choices that will satisfy your needs and enhance your life.
There was a recent post by a young user to which I wanted to comment. By the time I went to post it the original post was deleted. I still want to share part of what I wrote because I think it pertains to all relationships and it is short, simple and to the point. Actually I've expanded it a bit for general consumption.
- Be honest with yourself about who you are, what you need and what you have to give.
- Be honest with all others involved. If you find yourself dancing around the truth or leaving out bits of information because they might lead to an undesired response then chances are you are not being honest.
- Actively listen when your partners speak. Listen for what they are feeling and what they are asking for. This is more important than the actual words they use.
- Understanding and respecting your partners needs is essential to meeting your own. You will not be able to meet your needs if it means denying theirs.
Understanding these things you will not only help you build strong relationships but will help you make choices that will satisfy your needs and enhance your life.