*waves*
I haven't updated for over a week. I know, bad lj-friend...but in all honesty between being bored stiff on bedrest and dealing with constant fatigue you just aren't gonna get much out of me these days....at least not much in the way of coherant thought. Oddly enough, though, I seem to manage enough mental power to play Evony. In all honesty, watching television day in and day out becomes a drag of the same shows over and over and thus boring me even further. At least playing the game I get some communication to the outside world.
Despite being on bedrest I still do more than I really should do. Jason works 2-10:30p, so he's gone from 1:30-11p Monday - Friday and with no family to really help me out I'm stuck doing most everything myself. I have resolved to cooking quick meals that don't require me standing for too long, I take showers only when Jason is home for the most part since I slipped in the shower a couple days ago, and other than that I don't go anywhere or do anything. Heck, I'm not even supposed to be driving. However, sometimes cabin fever gets the best of me and I make a quick trip out into the world. This, however, has to stop. Yesterday I went to pick up a bassinet for the baby. I spent only $15 on it and it looks brand new. Not bad if ya ask me since the baby will only use a bassinet for about 3mnths. After that I stopped in at Once Upon a Child, a fabulous store if ya ask me, and picked up some baby garb. I bought 3 pairs of bib overalls (there's something about dressing a child like Dennis the Menace that I absolutely adore), 3 shirts, 2 sleepers, and a pair of shoes for $17. Score. One of the sleepers caught Jason's attention. It looks like a skeleton. Double score. We're thinking of finding a nice black or white newborn cap with a skull head on it to complete the outfit and take it to the hospital for coming home. Anyway, after my ventures, I was in a lot of pain, vomitting, nausious, and generally feeling like dog poo. This of course gave Jason the opening to lecture me...in which we agreed from now on I will do all baby shopping on his days off when he can join me OR online only....which led to us purchasing a minky baby blue and black skull blanket for $10.43 after shipping online. Woot!
The situaton with Malachi has gotten a lot better. I had a long conversation with the ex-inlaws/guardian's on Thursday. Apparently, they fiinally conceeded that they may have turned to medication too quickly. Upon changing his school Malachi's behavior has changed dramatically, leaving everyone to believe that a large amount of his problems dealing with his ADD were elemental. They have reduced his medication now to only one 5mg pill a day and hope to do a test drive next week on unmedicated school days. Score! Furthermore, they have also told me why they're fighting me on gaining guardianship of Malachi back. They want to see how Jason and I adjust to life with an infant. Unlike me, Jason has no history of mental instability and they generally like him (odd)...but they're worried about post partum depression mixing with my bipolar fits and sending me into a downward spiral. I can understand their logic. They have asked me to hold off until after we see how things go when the baby arrives...and if everything works out, then we'll get the ball rolling. Marilyn wanted me to know that Malachi is starting to turn into a tween (like I didn't already know) and she has NO interest in raising a teenager in her 70s. Ya think? This is a decent common ground for me, so I agreed with not only her logic, but her plans. Last but not least....visitation with his father has been modified. Since Sam (ex-hubby) married April (now step-mom) Malachi has continued to go to his biweekly visitations. I have no problem with Malachi having a relationship with his sperm donor father. However, what I haven't liked it the fact that when he goes over there he is IGNORED by his father and BEAT UP by Mason (April's nephew). A parent's home should be a safe haven, not one of abuse. I gave my LAST warning a week or so ago that if it continued child protective services will be called for an evaluation. I didn't want to do this to be mean or spiteful, but to protect my child. If Marilyn cannot make a decision to remove visitation for the safety of Malachi then she is in as much fault as daddy for allowing the abuse to happen. Apparently it got REALLY bad at his last visitation and Marilyn has had enough. From now on Malachi is going to be given the choice to go to his fathers or not (most the time he doesn't want to if Mason is there) and if he says no, he doesn't have to go. Instead, Sam will have to go to Marilyn's house for his visitation. Do I think he'll do this? No, but I'm hoping he will for his child's sake...after all, Malachi still loves his father. On another good note, I don't ever have to worry about Sam getting custody of Malachi...his parents simply won't allow it. Apparently the home life at Sam/April's life is not a good one and they would never allow it to happen. They'd much rather Malachi come back home to mommy where she's in a loving, stable environment with a good school district and lots of attention. Score!
Well...that's about it...Im gonna go now. I have to waddle my way into the facilities.
Take care everyone.
♥
Despite being on bedrest I still do more than I really should do. Jason works 2-10:30p, so he's gone from 1:30-11p Monday - Friday and with no family to really help me out I'm stuck doing most everything myself. I have resolved to cooking quick meals that don't require me standing for too long, I take showers only when Jason is home for the most part since I slipped in the shower a couple days ago, and other than that I don't go anywhere or do anything. Heck, I'm not even supposed to be driving. However, sometimes cabin fever gets the best of me and I make a quick trip out into the world. This, however, has to stop. Yesterday I went to pick up a bassinet for the baby. I spent only $15 on it and it looks brand new. Not bad if ya ask me since the baby will only use a bassinet for about 3mnths. After that I stopped in at Once Upon a Child, a fabulous store if ya ask me, and picked up some baby garb. I bought 3 pairs of bib overalls (there's something about dressing a child like Dennis the Menace that I absolutely adore), 3 shirts, 2 sleepers, and a pair of shoes for $17. Score. One of the sleepers caught Jason's attention. It looks like a skeleton. Double score. We're thinking of finding a nice black or white newborn cap with a skull head on it to complete the outfit and take it to the hospital for coming home. Anyway, after my ventures, I was in a lot of pain, vomitting, nausious, and generally feeling like dog poo. This of course gave Jason the opening to lecture me...in which we agreed from now on I will do all baby shopping on his days off when he can join me OR online only....which led to us purchasing a minky baby blue and black skull blanket for $10.43 after shipping online. Woot!
The situaton with Malachi has gotten a lot better. I had a long conversation with the ex-inlaws/guardian's on Thursday. Apparently, they fiinally conceeded that they may have turned to medication too quickly. Upon changing his school Malachi's behavior has changed dramatically, leaving everyone to believe that a large amount of his problems dealing with his ADD were elemental. They have reduced his medication now to only one 5mg pill a day and hope to do a test drive next week on unmedicated school days. Score! Furthermore, they have also told me why they're fighting me on gaining guardianship of Malachi back. They want to see how Jason and I adjust to life with an infant. Unlike me, Jason has no history of mental instability and they generally like him (odd)...but they're worried about post partum depression mixing with my bipolar fits and sending me into a downward spiral. I can understand their logic. They have asked me to hold off until after we see how things go when the baby arrives...and if everything works out, then we'll get the ball rolling. Marilyn wanted me to know that Malachi is starting to turn into a tween (like I didn't already know) and she has NO interest in raising a teenager in her 70s. Ya think? This is a decent common ground for me, so I agreed with not only her logic, but her plans. Last but not least....visitation with his father has been modified. Since Sam (ex-hubby) married April (now step-mom) Malachi has continued to go to his biweekly visitations. I have no problem with Malachi having a relationship with his sperm donor father. However, what I haven't liked it the fact that when he goes over there he is IGNORED by his father and BEAT UP by Mason (April's nephew). A parent's home should be a safe haven, not one of abuse. I gave my LAST warning a week or so ago that if it continued child protective services will be called for an evaluation. I didn't want to do this to be mean or spiteful, but to protect my child. If Marilyn cannot make a decision to remove visitation for the safety of Malachi then she is in as much fault as daddy for allowing the abuse to happen. Apparently it got REALLY bad at his last visitation and Marilyn has had enough. From now on Malachi is going to be given the choice to go to his fathers or not (most the time he doesn't want to if Mason is there) and if he says no, he doesn't have to go. Instead, Sam will have to go to Marilyn's house for his visitation. Do I think he'll do this? No, but I'm hoping he will for his child's sake...after all, Malachi still loves his father. On another good note, I don't ever have to worry about Sam getting custody of Malachi...his parents simply won't allow it. Apparently the home life at Sam/April's life is not a good one and they would never allow it to happen. They'd much rather Malachi come back home to mommy where she's in a loving, stable environment with a good school district and lots of attention. Score!
Well...that's about it...Im gonna go now. I have to waddle my way into the facilities.
Take care everyone.
♥