The patriarchy is a giant parasitic space porcupine.
Some time ago I was doing a google image search for something-or-other, when I got a result from yonder livejournal entry: http://hyel.livejournal.com/895483.html In this entry was a link labeled The Internet Superhero Feminists. And one can hardly see a link labeled The Internet Superhero
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1) First of all, I think feminists as a whole tend to be overly belligerent about their views. That "Letter to All the Liberal Straight Men" is a perfect example of everything I hate about some feminists. Here, you have an audience of men who, as far as I can tell, are sympathetic to the goals of the feminist movement, but are somewhat ignorant about some of the things that they do that may be construed as being insensitive. I doubt most men are doing these things maliciously, they just don't know any better. My roommate last year lived in a small town in Virginia her whole life and until she got to college, she had never even met a gay person. We met a really sweet gay guy named Eric, and we were all hanging out and she asked him if he was gay because he wanted to be a girl. And Eric, being a reasonable person, realized that she wasn't trying to be disrespectful, she just had no idea, so he just explained it to her. This woman here, on the other hand, instead of welcoming these men and trying to start a respectful dialogue with them, she just goes off and basically calls them all assholes. This is hardly the way to gain sympathizers for a social cause as crucial as this one. As we say in the South, you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.
2) It pisses me off that feminists will judge other women for doing things that they disagree with. For instance, I wear a bra, pluck my eyebrows, fix my hair, and shave my legs and armpits regularly. I also wear makeup, perfume, and high heels when the situation calls for it. It makes me feel good about myself, because I'm taking control of the way I present myself to the world instead of feeling like I have to settle with looking however I looked when I woke up this morning. And yet, the feminists insist that I've been brainwashed by The Evil Men into thinking that my personal worth is based on my appearance and that I have to look unnatural to be beautiful. I object to this theory because I really don't think I'm stupid enough to be "tricked" or "brainwashed" into believing something so dumb. I'm actually rather intelligent, and I really resent it when feminists imply otherwise. Another example - when I get married, I plan on taking my husband's last name. No hyphens or anything. Dun dun DUNNNNNNNNN. My last name is a pain in the ass to say and spell, I actually look forward to getting rid of it. And yet, according to the feminists, this all means that I'm letting my future husband control me and own me like a piece of property. If feminists would stop judging other women for stupid little things that they happen to object to, I'm sure a lot more women would take them seriously. To me, being a real feminist is all about having a real choice in how to live your life and not feeling like you HAVE to go one way or the other because of societal pressures. You can choose to wear makeup and high heels, or you can choose not to. You can choose to have as many or as few sexual partners as you damn well please. You can choose to work or be a stay-at-home-mom. And yet, it seems that feminists are ALWAYS judging the women who take the conventional path. If society puts pressure on women to stop changing our appearance and keep our maiden names and work outside the home, how are we any more liberated than we were before? It's just a different paradigm that we're being pushed to conform to.
Stay tuned, more bitching and moaning awaits! Stupid LJ and their character limit.
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