At this point I'm thinking you should really get yourself a self-help book deal. :)
I really appreciate the time and effort (as evidenced by length alone!) you've put into your responses. Long, thoughtful responses, at least for me, are always more appreciated than "Yeah, that sucks." Although, come to think of it, I've been chastised by people before for always thinking things need fixing/explaining rather than just commiserating with them. So I suppose that proves your point - like attracts like.
I'd argue my younger self with you but I'm sure we'd end in some vague undefinable stalemate, so let's just say I was likely in between what we both think I was back then.
I don't know if I'm angry with who I was. There is a part of me that really enjoyed the person I was - well, the aspects of who I was that I think were a little too free-wheeling and "immoral." Maybe that's the problem. I am frustrated with not being more angry and frustrated with the person I was. Of course, that's not true about everything - there are things I did that were undeniably stupid and I have tried to, if not rid myself of that, at least minimize it. But overall I guess this conversation has really hit upon the previous point mentioned above - I'm angry I'm not more angry.
Without getting into specifics, let's just say that while I had/have certain rules I myself adhere to, I do not find that I have much trouble with someone else doing something that would violate those rules, or our society's idea of acceptable behavior. If they are upset they're violating them then I'll try to help them, but if they're okay with what they're doing, I'm okay with it - even helping them do it.
And no, I'm not talking about any rapes or murders or Ponzi schemes or anything like that. Nothing that serious.
I hope I'm being somewhat coherent, though I feel I'm probably not. Regardless, I really appreciate your responses. :)
I really appreciate the time and effort (as evidenced by length alone!) you've put into your responses. Long, thoughtful responses, at least for me, are always more appreciated than "Yeah, that sucks." Although, come to think of it, I've been chastised by people before for always thinking things need fixing/explaining rather than just commiserating with them. So I suppose that proves your point - like attracts like.
I'd argue my younger self with you but I'm sure we'd end in some vague undefinable stalemate, so let's just say I was likely in between what we both think I was back then.
I don't know if I'm angry with who I was. There is a part of me that really enjoyed the person I was - well, the aspects of who I was that I think were a little too free-wheeling and "immoral." Maybe that's the problem. I am frustrated with not being more angry and frustrated with the person I was. Of course, that's not true about everything - there are things I did that were undeniably stupid and I have tried to, if not rid myself of that, at least minimize it. But overall I guess this conversation has really hit upon the previous point mentioned above - I'm angry I'm not more angry.
Without getting into specifics, let's just say that while I had/have certain rules I myself adhere to, I do not find that I have much trouble with someone else doing something that would violate those rules, or our society's idea of acceptable behavior. If they are upset they're violating them then I'll try to help them, but if they're okay with what they're doing, I'm okay with it - even helping them do it.
And no, I'm not talking about any rapes or murders or Ponzi schemes or anything like that. Nothing that serious.
I hope I'm being somewhat coherent, though I feel I'm probably not. Regardless, I really appreciate your responses. :)
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