I just wanted to tell you that I have watched Tokyo Drift twice (once on tv at the bfs place and once dubbed into Spanish at a restaurant) and both times have been oddly comforted by it. There is something really calming about it.
> I *envy* J's relationship. I envy her pain. What a fucking HORRIBLE thing to say.
I think your reaction is perfectly normal. It is unusual that you have the insight to recognize it and the courage to say it.
I'd even go so far as to say that the grief we feel at the death of a loved one is in many ways a gift. That grief is suffused with love and happy memories (you don't mourn people who made you miserable), and can also help us come to terms with our own mortality by reflecting on how we will be mourned when the time comes (which makes us think that we will die happy knowing that we have done good in the world).
Of course, this gets much less true the younger our loved one is at death. And plenty of the grief just sucks rocks.
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Good night, darlin'!
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I think your reaction is perfectly normal. It is unusual that you have the insight to recognize it and the courage to say it.
I'd even go so far as to say that the grief we feel at the death of a loved one is in many ways a gift. That grief is suffused with love and happy memories (you don't mourn people who made you miserable), and can also help us come to terms with our own mortality by reflecting on how we will be mourned when the time comes (which makes us think that we will die happy knowing that we have done good in the world).
Of course, this gets much less true the younger our loved one is at death. And plenty of the grief just sucks rocks.
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