Opposites repulse

[proudduckling]

I tend to believe that people think they're doing the right thing. At the very least, I like to presume that people don't think they're doing the wrong thing. I don't assume this is completely universal; I don't assume that everyone is intelligent, nice, or correct; I don't even assume that everyone is moral. I just operate under the assumption

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[kira_dancing]

Oh, darlin, you just articulated two of my deeply held observations. People always seem to justify their actions on whatever moral scale they have, and yet end up doing such fucked-up stuff it seems like it can't possibly be justified.

These are things that are not just immoral but anti-moral; so wrong that they could only be thought of by someone who knew what right was.

That, oh yes. That describes it so, so well...

[lilzing]

Sorry, I'm only just reading this now, but I feel compelled to comment as I think you've articulated the problem very well. It particularly resonates with me at this time, as I'm trying to make sense of the implosion of a personal relationship.

I think most people don't tend to take the time to truly, deeply think and reflect, and thus, say and do hurtful, thoughtless, immoral things. I also think that deep down, they may realize that there's something wrong with their behaviour, but rather than subject themselves to a self-critical eye and make tough changes, they take the easy way out and live in denial. As well, their behaviour may also be reinforced by their peers/environment, making it seem like an acceptable code of conduct when it's really not (an "everyone does it so it's okay or that's the way things are" mentality).