They say the Euphoria of being "in love" generally wanes after two years+/-...then people move on, and its kind of displayed if you look at the masses of relationships
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Nope, never thought my parent loved each other less than married parents...if anything they loved each other more - as much as they could anyway. They always tried their best and are and were good parents to me and my sister. They split up when i was about twelve...but i didn't blame them - i was old enough to understand...they fought all the time and i hated those arguments. They stayed "friends" as much as possible and are at least civilized in all family-related stuff. In friend's families where marriages failed i witnessed a lot of hate...maybe marriage kept the parents together too long artificially...as a matter of "duty"...when it might've been better to take a break for a while or devorce altogether but remain friendly. I think it's wrong when marriage binds in a negative way...as in when people no longer want to be together but force themselves to be - that can only make them hate one another, right? But, it depaneds on the individual as i said...marriage is what you make od it...it can provide stability which is reassuring...but it doesn't have to take away one's freedom - unless by "freedom" you mean "sleeping with other people"! You can still do everything..and probably more 'cause you feel more protected and reassured...just not sleep with other people. if you want that then marriage isn't a good idea. But, i still think it depends on what you want...for me, love exists without marriage - in every form...love obligates ...marriage, whichever way you look at it, is socially constructed for a reason...it's not a feeling or an emotion - love is...marriage is based on love...when there's no love it cannot exist as real marriage.
They stayed "friends" as much as possible and are at least civilized in all family-related stuff.
In friend's families where marriages failed i witnessed a lot of hate...maybe marriage kept the parents together too long artificially...as a matter of "duty"...when it might've been better to take a break for a while or devorce altogether but remain friendly. I think it's wrong when marriage binds in a negative way...as in when people no longer want to be together but force themselves to be - that can only make them hate one another, right? But, it depaneds on the individual as i said...marriage is what you make od it...it can provide stability which is reassuring...but it doesn't have to take away one's freedom - unless by "freedom" you mean "sleeping with other people"! You can still do everything..and probably more 'cause you feel more protected and reassured...just not sleep with other people. if you want that then marriage isn't a good idea. But, i still think it depends on what you want...for me, love exists without marriage - in every form...love obligates
...marriage, whichever way you look at it, is socially constructed for a reason...it's not a feeling or an emotion - love is...marriage is based on love...when there's no love it cannot exist as real marriage.
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