Be very careful about letting anyone chain you down because you feel guilty. This is YOUR life. There is so much for you to yet experience and to explore. Family can bind you down and wrap you up and use you up. When my mom was in the hospital, a counselor held a meeting with me and my brother. She asked us how we handled it when our mom called us on the phone drunk. My brother said very firmly, "I tell her not to call me again when she's drinking. If she wants to talk to me, she can call me when she is sober." It sounds harsh, especially when mom might be crying, or pleading. But the counselor approved completely and said its very important to set healthy boundaries.
We are NOT responsible for our parents. There is a point where you have to be very clear of your choices and your life. Im not saying to abandon family .... that would be a little hypocritical since I gave up my two studios and home to move here to help with my husbands mom ... but even in that move, I keep MY life. I may compromise, which is fair enough, but I still move steadily in the direction I am called.
Experience what you need to experience, follow your dreams, your calling. You have to take care of yourself, become stronger, more seasoned ... because later you are going to need all the things you learn, and likely you will still be helping your family unit in some manner.
We are NOT responsible for our parents. There is a point where you have to be very clear of your choices and your life. Im not saying to abandon family .... that would be a little hypocritical since I gave up my two studios and home to move here to help with my husbands mom ... but even in that move, I keep MY life. I may compromise, which is fair enough, but I still move steadily in the direction I am called.
Experience what you need to experience, follow your dreams, your calling. You have to take care of yourself, become stronger, more seasoned ... because later you are going to need all the things you learn, and likely you will still be helping your family unit in some manner.
::steps off the soapbox with a little curtsy::
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