Discussion

[problematika]

P is 14 months old today, adjusted age 11. If I'm off fieldworking even for an hour, I miss him as if I were a walking cliche. Tonight over stuffed squid, we continued our discussion of bio or no biokid in a rather large and heavy installment. Of course, virutally no discussion is too heavy for our brand of humor

Comments

[khrysha]

Strangely enough, I find it really hard to explain my 'lack of' desire to have a child. I'd prefer to adopt too, but maybe I mentioned that previously. Not sure why. Just feel that way. One reason is the many children who need good homes. I really feel that's more important, to give a child a good home, rather than to necessarily produce one from my own body. I'm not sure I'm making complete sense, but that's about it.

It's an interesting decision to make, I guess because all our lives we're 'trained' to feel that our own flesh and blood is more important than others...

Looks like the training didn't work on at least a few people.

BTW: I can have a child, I'm not infertile, that I know of anyway, but I don't want to.

Bring on the orphans I say!!! :)

*love*

[khrysha]

Did I make it clear that I adore children and would like to have 'one of my own' as they say... just not necessarily give birth to it? :)

[problematika]

You're right, you HAVE said that before :-) I'm glad you reminded me. Bring on the orphans! (I haven't made up my mind completely yet...for one thing, there's tons of family pressure that I don't know if I can withstand - at the same time, I'm thinking - righbtly - that family pressure is no good reason to get pregnant.)

[khrysha]

fuck family, if they actually cared about you wholly and unreservedly, they would support you in whatever decision you made. I say, go with your heart and intuition. If what you both want is to adopt, then do it.

*mwah*

[problematika]

Oh, they'll support me (the ones who matter, anyway), eventually, but there will a lot complaining and well-meant warnings first. I'm thinking, now, though, that if we figure out some workable adoption plan now (a big if, actually), we just won't tell people. It was important to prepare them for the first kid, but I think it's okay if they're surprised by the origin of the second one :-)