Shallow?
I'm having a moment of trying to decide if this is shallow of me or not:
A friend messaged me and wanted to know if I was single because there's a "nice guy, with a good job, who is a comic book geek," that she wants to set me up with. I asked if he had a myspace page & said there was no point in her setting me up on a date with someone if I was going to decide in the first 5 min that I'm not interested (presuming he hasn't already decided he's not interested).
And part of me feels shallow for wanting to see what he looks like first, but part of me thinks fuck the guilt. One, I've never had a guy want to date me if he wasn't physically attracted to me and why should there be a double standard? Two, if there isn't some sort of spark, there's no point in trying to make one.
I should specify that I'm not expecting someone who's a pretty boy or drop-dead gorgeous. I just need to find something attractive about them, there has to be some sort of chemistry.
I haven't seen a pic yet, so for all I know, I'm going to drool all over it, but at this moment, in my sleepy, rambly-ness, this is where my head is.
Plus, when someone starts out with "nice guy" it tends to send up warning flags in my brain. I do want to check out other info on his myspace page if he has one, not just the pics. What if he's a right-wing Republican who believes in anti-choice, persecution of gays, and thinks all people into BDSM are going to hell?
A friend messaged me and wanted to know if I was single because there's a "nice guy, with a good job, who is a comic book geek," that she wants to set me up with. I asked if he had a myspace page & said there was no point in her setting me up on a date with someone if I was going to decide in the first 5 min that I'm not interested (presuming he hasn't already decided he's not interested).
And part of me feels shallow for wanting to see what he looks like first, but part of me thinks fuck the guilt. One, I've never had a guy want to date me if he wasn't physically attracted to me and why should there be a double standard? Two, if there isn't some sort of spark, there's no point in trying to make one.
I should specify that I'm not expecting someone who's a pretty boy or drop-dead gorgeous. I just need to find something attractive about them, there has to be some sort of chemistry.
I haven't seen a pic yet, so for all I know, I'm going to drool all over it, but at this moment, in my sleepy, rambly-ness, this is where my head is.
Plus, when someone starts out with "nice guy" it tends to send up warning flags in my brain. I do want to check out other info on his myspace page if he has one, not just the pics. What if he's a right-wing Republican who believes in anti-choice, persecution of gays, and thinks all people into BDSM are going to hell?