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I'm not sure how to word this without sounding like I'm whining, or being an attention whore, but I'm going to say it anyway.
If you ask nearly anyone, they'll tell you, atleast I hope they'll tell you, that I love my friends dearly. I want the best for them and I support them in their quests for happiness. Often times, finding love is the ultimate goal in achieving that happiness, and that's fantastic. For those of you who have found it, you know I support it 100%. Hell, i'm crazy in love myself and it's the most fantastic feeling there is.
And now here's where the "but" comes in. Finding love is a great means to achieve happiness, but there is never any substitution for friendship and commradery. So many people forget that the rest of the world continues to exist around them, once they've found that person who they invest their strongest emotions in.
We need our friends. No matter how supportive a significant other is, no matter how much we feel like we can't keep our hands off of them and want to be with each other as much as we can, we. need. our. friends. It's not fair to those who have invested their friendship into you to drop them or leave them hanging once someone else comes along. It doesn't hurt to pick up the phone, give a quick hello, and ask how a friend is doing. Catch up with them. Laugh with them. It'll make you and that person feel even better than you already were feeling if you feel like you're on top of the world. And you never know, maybe that person on the recieving end of that phone call appreciated that call more than you know. Maybe they were feeling lonely or taken for granted and you just made their day.
When you go to a party filled with people whom you consider friends, socialize with them! Sure, you want to show the world how fantastic your partner is. And sure, we can all admit that sometimes, couples together can be quite entertaining. But how are your friends going to say hello to you when you're constantly attached at the lips...or elsewhere...with your partner? Hang out with your friends. Hang out with your partner. Enjoy all of your loved ones in the room.
I know that can get hard. Trust me. When these parties are often times the only time when my girlfriend and I can see each other during the week due to living far apart for the time being, it does get hard.
This post obviously wasn't directed at everyone. There are some people here who balance the two so fantastically that it amazes me. Point and match: Billy and Orlando.(I hope I don't embarass you both by calling you out, but the way you both handle yourselves and your friends is my definition of perfect.)Billy and Orlando are currently undergoing a huge lifestyle change, with their new daughter and all. It can easily be a time for them to forget the rest of the world and focus on their new family. Instead, they draw their friends into their family, including them, keeping the relationships with everyone strong. They make their friends feel included, rather than feeling like they're invading any territory that they shouldn't be. If anything, I've felt closer to the both of them lately, proud to be able to witness such events that they are going through. I watch them do this with everyone. And you all must admit, it's a great feeling when it happens to you, when someone makes you feel welcome, isn't it? (Again, sorry for directing the spotlight on the two of you.)
I guess I just felt the need to say this in general because I have witnessed a few forgotten friendships, whether it be by friends of my own, or other people experiencing this. Just a friendly reminder. And I know this sounds selfish and pushy. I appologize if anyone is offended. I love you guys with all my heart, and I just felt that something was needed to be said. Like I said, this isn't directed at everyone. Just a general PSA. But just stop..look at your watch. Note the time. Do you know where your friends are? If not, what's keeping you from finding out?
If you ask nearly anyone, they'll tell you, atleast I hope they'll tell you, that I love my friends dearly. I want the best for them and I support them in their quests for happiness. Often times, finding love is the ultimate goal in achieving that happiness, and that's fantastic. For those of you who have found it, you know I support it 100%. Hell, i'm crazy in love myself and it's the most fantastic feeling there is.
And now here's where the "but" comes in. Finding love is a great means to achieve happiness, but there is never any substitution for friendship and commradery. So many people forget that the rest of the world continues to exist around them, once they've found that person who they invest their strongest emotions in.
We need our friends. No matter how supportive a significant other is, no matter how much we feel like we can't keep our hands off of them and want to be with each other as much as we can, we. need. our. friends. It's not fair to those who have invested their friendship into you to drop them or leave them hanging once someone else comes along. It doesn't hurt to pick up the phone, give a quick hello, and ask how a friend is doing. Catch up with them. Laugh with them. It'll make you and that person feel even better than you already were feeling if you feel like you're on top of the world. And you never know, maybe that person on the recieving end of that phone call appreciated that call more than you know. Maybe they were feeling lonely or taken for granted and you just made their day.
When you go to a party filled with people whom you consider friends, socialize with them! Sure, you want to show the world how fantastic your partner is. And sure, we can all admit that sometimes, couples together can be quite entertaining. But how are your friends going to say hello to you when you're constantly attached at the lips...or elsewhere...with your partner? Hang out with your friends. Hang out with your partner. Enjoy all of your loved ones in the room.
I know that can get hard. Trust me. When these parties are often times the only time when my girlfriend and I can see each other during the week due to living far apart for the time being, it does get hard.
This post obviously wasn't directed at everyone. There are some people here who balance the two so fantastically that it amazes me. Point and match: Billy and Orlando.(I hope I don't embarass you both by calling you out, but the way you both handle yourselves and your friends is my definition of perfect.)Billy and Orlando are currently undergoing a huge lifestyle change, with their new daughter and all. It can easily be a time for them to forget the rest of the world and focus on their new family. Instead, they draw their friends into their family, including them, keeping the relationships with everyone strong. They make their friends feel included, rather than feeling like they're invading any territory that they shouldn't be. If anything, I've felt closer to the both of them lately, proud to be able to witness such events that they are going through. I watch them do this with everyone. And you all must admit, it's a great feeling when it happens to you, when someone makes you feel welcome, isn't it? (Again, sorry for directing the spotlight on the two of you.)
I guess I just felt the need to say this in general because I have witnessed a few forgotten friendships, whether it be by friends of my own, or other people experiencing this. Just a friendly reminder. And I know this sounds selfish and pushy. I appologize if anyone is offended. I love you guys with all my heart, and I just felt that something was needed to be said. Like I said, this isn't directed at everyone. Just a general PSA. But just stop..look at your watch. Note the time. Do you know where your friends are? If not, what's keeping you from finding out?