I'll take a shot of sanity, on the rocks, please...
I'm beginning to wonder if I'm a control freak that just didn't realize it til recently. SO much shit has been going on, none of which I can do anything about, and I lost it last night. Whoever said that you get to run your own life when you're an adult was clearly lying. >:
So my dad moved out to Las Vegas... left Sunday with his partner, who's apparently scored a sweet job doing AS400 administration for some company that will pay him like, 20-25k a year MORE than he was making here, so I totally woulda been out the door with an offer like that too. My dad was originally going to do some fixing up on our house first, and move out there in a few months, after selling the house. I think the idea of living across the country from John was a bit too much for them, because a few days later, he said that he was just going to pack up his stuff, move it with John's because John's new company was paying 5K for relocation, and find a job when he gets out there. So it went from a window of 3-6 months to 3 WEEKS before he moved. Needless to say, a LOT still needs to be done to the house, which my mother and I will now have to see to, though he's said he's going to help pay for all of that. *shakes her head*
My mother has now moved back in with me since she's in the process of getting (another)divorce. *sighs* I love my mother, truly- she's a wonderful person. But she is a packrat, and clings to things which I CANNOT see the value in no matter how hard I try. I almost wonder if it's not a sense of trying to establish identity or permanence in her mind- I don't like the idea of my mom feeling lost like that, since I know all too well what it's like. But not only was my dad not able to take his two cats with him, I have one, my mom has one, plus a Dalmation, 4 cockatiels, and an aquarium. Welcome to the Hineman family petting zoo. >.<
Throw in the everpresent waiting for the paperwork thing to be sorted (it's been forwarded on to Amsterdam, who need to get in touch with Jim and send him his packet so he can get that stuff done), having less than 4 months to plan a wedding even though I technically can't plan anything that requires a firm date til Jim actually HAS his visa, and never MIND work... yeah, I'm a bit frazzled.
So my dad moved out to Las Vegas... left Sunday with his partner, who's apparently scored a sweet job doing AS400 administration for some company that will pay him like, 20-25k a year MORE than he was making here, so I totally woulda been out the door with an offer like that too. My dad was originally going to do some fixing up on our house first, and move out there in a few months, after selling the house. I think the idea of living across the country from John was a bit too much for them, because a few days later, he said that he was just going to pack up his stuff, move it with John's because John's new company was paying 5K for relocation, and find a job when he gets out there. So it went from a window of 3-6 months to 3 WEEKS before he moved. Needless to say, a LOT still needs to be done to the house, which my mother and I will now have to see to, though he's said he's going to help pay for all of that. *shakes her head*
My mother has now moved back in with me since she's in the process of getting (another)divorce. *sighs* I love my mother, truly- she's a wonderful person. But she is a packrat, and clings to things which I CANNOT see the value in no matter how hard I try. I almost wonder if it's not a sense of trying to establish identity or permanence in her mind- I don't like the idea of my mom feeling lost like that, since I know all too well what it's like. But not only was my dad not able to take his two cats with him, I have one, my mom has one, plus a Dalmation, 4 cockatiels, and an aquarium. Welcome to the Hineman family petting zoo. >.<
Throw in the everpresent waiting for the paperwork thing to be sorted (it's been forwarded on to Amsterdam, who need to get in touch with Jim and send him his packet so he can get that stuff done), having less than 4 months to plan a wedding even though I technically can't plan anything that requires a firm date til Jim actually HAS his visa, and never MIND work... yeah, I'm a bit frazzled.