Life
Things have been going well in my life. Corey and I had to have a major discussion on the wya back from Athens Sunday night. We have some issues concerning how we feel about how much we appreciate each other and whether or not the appreciation is shown and things we'd like to better show that appreciation.
Our problems are usually on a small scale, but then things escalate b/c I feel that he should apologize more or admit that he's wrong and let me know that he is acknowledging what's going on as opposed to what he normally does. Which is to just start joking around and acting like nothing ever happened and thinking that we'll just move on. But I'm the type of person, that I like closure and everytime he does that, it makes me feel that he's not taking me seriously enough to just apologize. And usually, no ALWAYS, causes things to escalate and turn into a MAJOR argument.
Then another issue is baby-mama semi-drama. For whatever reason, Ms. Thing has resolved herself to the fact that if she acts like I don't exist, then I'll just disappear. And she totally ignores me until she is forced to deal with me. Like, if I call to ask for Tye'Anna's sizes or something, she never calls back. I understand that people screen calls, Hell, I do. But if you see that the message I left you is a question regarding your child, then just maybe you would want to call me back. But no, she'll just act like it never happened then as soon as Corey calls her, then its "Oh, I saw Porsha called I meant to call her back, etc. etc. etc. Yeah, whatever heifer. Then there was the whole thing that @ pickups/drop-offs if I was with Corey then she wouldn't speak to me, but she can speak to Corey as he is helping carry Tye'Anna stuff. But I made him address that, and you know what this B*tcH has a nerve to say/do?!?!?!?! Tye'anna didn't need to come visit b/c she didn't like the tone Corey took with her. What tone? The "Porsha takes care of your child like her own, and will be her primary caregiver seeing as how I'm away from home driving trucks and you should try to get along with her considering your child likes being here and feels like she belongs" sorta tone? Come on... Now she's on this thing that since I asked her not to call Corey after 10 p.m., that she will randomly mention stuff about what's going on in her life etc. etc. No I don't think so, the two of you don't have that kind of relationship. *Crazy, ghetto Porsha comes out* THAT'S MY DAMN TIME! He isn't obligated to anything else outside of Hey, how are you? what's going on with my child, where is my child? may i speak to my child? THAT's IT! Then she's gotta make comments about her friends and what kinda businesses they har, car they drive etc. etc. I just am not for it, b/c she can't deal with the stuff she's supposed to be worried about like the insurance company threatening to cancel Tye'anna's insurance through Corey's job unless we have a birth certificate on file, oh no, her concern is her friend that owns his own truck and any other random piece of information that she feels the need to talk about.
Then she lies about stuff. Like the time she needed $300 wired to her so she could buy Tye'anna some furniture b/c she was moving the next day. WTF?!?!?! Now the better ? is did she ever move? Oh no!!!!! She still lives with her mother...Did she ever buy the furniture. Who knows, b/c Little mama ain't sleepin in it @ her grandmother's. She's sleeping in the bed with her. Then we gotta lie about when Corey plans to meet her to pickup Tye'anna. (b/c they live in SC) then it's always an excuse: I forgot I had to work, I gotta a meeting at work, etc. etc. Or my ultimate favorite when she calls the day of 20 minutes before we're walking out the door to announce that she doesn't have any gas $$$. Then she calls and randomly asks for his old apartment address from 7 years ago, b/c during the 1 1/2 months that they're trying to have a relationship b/c they have a child together b/c before they were just FWBs, someone stole your identity and has credit cards and apartments in her name. And that's where they got her information from. Once again, WTF?!?!?! So my thing is this, we no longer entertain this type of silliness. Because she cannot legally keep your child away from you b/c you don't care to know where she's working now, or how much houses cost in SC, or just whatever. So that's put to rest.
Then we talked about some frustrations around the house that I have as far a the workload. I DO A LOT!!! And I told him I would like for a reak sometimes. Then the fact that I still feel like CJ's mom. Everywhere we go CJ is there! and I love the fact that he loves doing things as a family. But sometimes, I would like to go out more just the two of us.
Then we talked about things that are coming up for us how we need to prepare for it. The money we need to save for the house and things we will need for the house. Bills, we paid off. Buying the SUV. Getting married (07/07/07). Planning BABY #2 (Our planned baby!) Yeay!
And believe or not, he had frustrations. He wants me to be more understanding of the stress that is constantly on him b/c he says he's constantly worrying about our future. Just b/c its his job to provide for us. *gushing*
So it was a pretty productive conversation and I liked the fact that it wasn't or didn't feel rushed. But Sunday was great. We went to my family church on my dad's side in the country. Then we ate dinner in Athens to celebrate my little cousin's birthday.
Man, last night I cooked the best lasagna ever!!!! It was my very first time making it and I am too happy. I'm gonna write the recipe in my little recipe book now. My process is I try it first and if its good, it goes in the book. I hope that years from now my grandkids or great grandkids will look back and use my recipes. Yeah I know, I'm a cornball. But it was really good, and we all know that I rarely get the urge to come home and cook! Corey had 3 platefuls and took the rest to work to eat for dinner tonight. We had a nice dinner though, I actually set the table, placemats, silverware, glasses, the whole nine. and we had salad, lasagna and long islands and they were soo strong that I was still burping it this morning. (ok, that may have been TMI)
But everything's good here, just busy with work and the baby and the househunt. Fingers crossed the house that Corey's mom is showing me (she's a licensed realtor) this evening will be the 1! B/c I'm tired of looking and I want to go ahead and put int a contract and get the ball rolling so that we can finish the term of our lease and go into the new house, w/o having to pay month - to -month, or heaven forbid sign another lease and have to deal with breaking it and paying penalties b/c we find something in the middle of our new lease term. Well, I guess I need to be finding something to eat for lunch before my meeting @ 1pm.
~Porsha
Our problems are usually on a small scale, but then things escalate b/c I feel that he should apologize more or admit that he's wrong and let me know that he is acknowledging what's going on as opposed to what he normally does. Which is to just start joking around and acting like nothing ever happened and thinking that we'll just move on. But I'm the type of person, that I like closure and everytime he does that, it makes me feel that he's not taking me seriously enough to just apologize. And usually, no ALWAYS, causes things to escalate and turn into a MAJOR argument.
Then another issue is baby-mama semi-drama. For whatever reason, Ms. Thing has resolved herself to the fact that if she acts like I don't exist, then I'll just disappear. And she totally ignores me until she is forced to deal with me. Like, if I call to ask for Tye'Anna's sizes or something, she never calls back. I understand that people screen calls, Hell, I do. But if you see that the message I left you is a question regarding your child, then just maybe you would want to call me back. But no, she'll just act like it never happened then as soon as Corey calls her, then its "Oh, I saw Porsha called I meant to call her back, etc. etc. etc. Yeah, whatever heifer. Then there was the whole thing that @ pickups/drop-offs if I was with Corey then she wouldn't speak to me, but she can speak to Corey as he is helping carry Tye'Anna stuff. But I made him address that, and you know what this B*tcH has a nerve to say/do?!?!?!?! Tye'anna didn't need to come visit b/c she didn't like the tone Corey took with her. What tone? The "Porsha takes care of your child like her own, and will be her primary caregiver seeing as how I'm away from home driving trucks and you should try to get along with her considering your child likes being here and feels like she belongs" sorta tone? Come on... Now she's on this thing that since I asked her not to call Corey after 10 p.m., that she will randomly mention stuff about what's going on in her life etc. etc. No I don't think so, the two of you don't have that kind of relationship. *Crazy, ghetto Porsha comes out* THAT'S MY DAMN TIME! He isn't obligated to anything else outside of Hey, how are you? what's going on with my child, where is my child? may i speak to my child? THAT's IT! Then she's gotta make comments about her friends and what kinda businesses they har, car they drive etc. etc. I just am not for it, b/c she can't deal with the stuff she's supposed to be worried about like the insurance company threatening to cancel Tye'anna's insurance through Corey's job unless we have a birth certificate on file, oh no, her concern is her friend that owns his own truck and any other random piece of information that she feels the need to talk about.
Then she lies about stuff. Like the time she needed $300 wired to her so she could buy Tye'anna some furniture b/c she was moving the next day. WTF?!?!?! Now the better ? is did she ever move? Oh no!!!!! She still lives with her mother...Did she ever buy the furniture. Who knows, b/c Little mama ain't sleepin in it @ her grandmother's. She's sleeping in the bed with her. Then we gotta lie about when Corey plans to meet her to pickup Tye'anna. (b/c they live in SC) then it's always an excuse: I forgot I had to work, I gotta a meeting at work, etc. etc. Or my ultimate favorite when she calls the day of 20 minutes before we're walking out the door to announce that she doesn't have any gas $$$. Then she calls and randomly asks for his old apartment address from 7 years ago, b/c during the 1 1/2 months that they're trying to have a relationship b/c they have a child together b/c before they were just FWBs, someone stole your identity and has credit cards and apartments in her name. And that's where they got her information from. Once again, WTF?!?!?! So my thing is this, we no longer entertain this type of silliness. Because she cannot legally keep your child away from you b/c you don't care to know where she's working now, or how much houses cost in SC, or just whatever. So that's put to rest.
Then we talked about some frustrations around the house that I have as far a the workload. I DO A LOT!!! And I told him I would like for a reak sometimes. Then the fact that I still feel like CJ's mom. Everywhere we go CJ is there! and I love the fact that he loves doing things as a family. But sometimes, I would like to go out more just the two of us.
Then we talked about things that are coming up for us how we need to prepare for it. The money we need to save for the house and things we will need for the house. Bills, we paid off. Buying the SUV. Getting married (07/07/07). Planning BABY #2 (Our planned baby!) Yeay!
And believe or not, he had frustrations. He wants me to be more understanding of the stress that is constantly on him b/c he says he's constantly worrying about our future. Just b/c its his job to provide for us. *gushing*
So it was a pretty productive conversation and I liked the fact that it wasn't or didn't feel rushed. But Sunday was great. We went to my family church on my dad's side in the country. Then we ate dinner in Athens to celebrate my little cousin's birthday.
Man, last night I cooked the best lasagna ever!!!! It was my very first time making it and I am too happy. I'm gonna write the recipe in my little recipe book now. My process is I try it first and if its good, it goes in the book. I hope that years from now my grandkids or great grandkids will look back and use my recipes. Yeah I know, I'm a cornball. But it was really good, and we all know that I rarely get the urge to come home and cook! Corey had 3 platefuls and took the rest to work to eat for dinner tonight. We had a nice dinner though, I actually set the table, placemats, silverware, glasses, the whole nine. and we had salad, lasagna and long islands and they were soo strong that I was still burping it this morning. (ok, that may have been TMI)
But everything's good here, just busy with work and the baby and the househunt. Fingers crossed the house that Corey's mom is showing me (she's a licensed realtor) this evening will be the 1! B/c I'm tired of looking and I want to go ahead and put int a contract and get the ball rolling so that we can finish the term of our lease and go into the new house, w/o having to pay month - to -month, or heaven forbid sign another lease and have to deal with breaking it and paying penalties b/c we find something in the middle of our new lease term. Well, I guess I need to be finding something to eat for lunch before my meeting @ 1pm.
~Porsha