Perhaps if you knew anything about my past you would know that it is not so simple as that. I prefer to keep people out of physical reach for a very good reason. A reason that has nothing to do with you and is none of your business. I have gotten past my trauma as best as I can, but having someone force physical contact on me is only going to prove dangerous for my progress since that was a large part of the trauma. Do not assume that you know how to help me heal when not even trained psychologists have been able to do much for me. Until you have a degree in psychology I would appreciate you not making assumptions about when I need to move on and how to go about it.
Unless you are willing to talk about it, it should not be brought up. And considering the fact that you're on my team, if it is going to affect any aspect of your performance as it applies to tennis, I should know.
And perhaps those psychologists are not helping because you do not wish to be helped, Ibu-kun. Ever think about that?
I am not willing to talk about the circumstances, but you need to understand that physical contact or any type of violence is likely to make me shut down mentally. I don't forsee a lot of physical contact in a sport like tennis and it has never affected my play before. If you insist on knowing I will give permission to Tacibana-san or Akira to tell you the very basics of the situation.
I would like to get over my issues, but I find it very hard to trust people and that impedes my ability to succeed in therapy. I would like nothing more than to be rid of the nightmares, flashbacks and anxiety that this trauma has created, but it is not so easily done.
I do not wish to discuss specifics, but as you are one of my current captains I felt it best that you know that things like "Hug-a-Friend" day make me extremely uncomfortable and might even prevent me from functioning properly. You were the one that would not let the subject drop when Tacibana-san told you that these things cause me grief. That is all I will say about it and I hope you will let the topic drop.
Ibu-kun, if I dropped it simply because it caused you grief, I would have to drop it for everyone else, as well. And that I will not do. Especially since I do not know the circumstances.
I was referring to dropping the topic in general. I realize that you wouldn't drop the event just because of me, but I'd appreciate you not prying into the circumstances since they are very troublesome and hard for me to discuss. I will give Akira permission to fill you in on the basics so that you will have an idea as to what is going on, but I will not talk about it myself.
Guys, I opened up this chat room so we could talk about this privately. Couldn't you wait until I got back from the head?*
1. Yukimura, if you haven't realized it by now, Shinji thinks aloud. He's not necessarily 'bringing something up.' 2. Shinji, no one was forcing hugs on you. I know you fretted about that all day, so I asked Yukimura. No one did, right? 3. When did you acquire your psychiatry degree, Yukimura? 4. Kamio, you're not helping.
ooc: *this part of the conversation is between the 4 of us because it's not something we'd blab over the public airwaves. :)
I was just worried about Shinji. That sort of thing can shut him down completely.
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Everyone has to deal with unpleasant situations. He should start getting used to them.
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It's not a matter of getting used to something unpleasant. We're talking trauma in his past.
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It shall help him begin the process of healing from that trauma.
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And perhaps those psychologists are not helping because you do not wish to be helped, Ibu-kun. Ever think about that?
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I would like to get over my issues, but I find it very hard to trust people and that impedes my ability to succeed in therapy. I would like nothing more than to be rid of the nightmares, flashbacks and anxiety that this trauma has created, but it is not so easily done.
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And do not presume to tell me what I should keep my nose out of. If you are on my team, it is my business.
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1. Yukimura, if you haven't realized it by now, Shinji thinks aloud. He's not necessarily 'bringing something up.'
2. Shinji, no one was forcing hugs on you. I know you fretted about that all day, so I asked Yukimura. No one did, right?
3. When did you acquire your psychiatry degree, Yukimura?
4. Kamio, you're not helping.
ooc: *this part of the conversation is between the 4 of us because it's not something we'd blab over the public airwaves. :)
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