God.
Okay, it's summer!! Yay?
I miss my friends from college, I don't like living at home, and the more time I spend with people the more I remember why I don't have a lot of friends.
When I go without people for a long time I get a strong urge to go hang out with people and make friends. BUT THEN!! Then I remember why I didn't hang out with them earlier. And why I don't have a lot of people I regularly call on as 'friends.'
I am a positive person. It's not hard for me to be outgoing or to make friends in new places. BUT HERE IS THE THING. I DO NOT NEED YOU AS A FRIEND. I WILL BE FINE WITHOUT YOU. AS MUCH AS IT SUCKS TO BE ALONE I HAVE DONE IT BEFORE AND IT IS BETTER THAN HANGING OUT WITH ASSHOLES. TRUE FACT.
If I consider you a friend, I have chosen you. It did not happen, as many will say, by accident. I have evaluated your character and personality and deemed you as someone A) likeable and B) not a jerk. If I do not consider you a 'friend,' it does not mean I dislike you. It may come down to something as silly as 'our personalities aren't compatible,' but it frequently means I don't like hanging out with you.
SO, when I end up hanging out with my good friend and some mutual acquaintances, I REMEMBERED ALL THIS.
You see, there is this girl who I knew before college and she was okay. I always liked hanging out with her on trips and things, but she got on my nerves some times. I remember why.
We were driving back from dinner and see some girls on a corner in clothes that were less than modest. BUT. Then this girl sticks her head out of my passenger window and says something slightly rude and completely uncalled for.
JUST. IT WAS COMPLETELY UNNECESSARY AND WAS NOTHING BUT HURTFUL.
If you're going to say something about their clothes and you do not know them, at least be kind about it. At least make it constructive and, if you're godly like I know she's supposed to be, show some love in it rather than making fun of them and saying they look 'skanky.'
I have been called 'the least judgmental person ever.' But I feel judgmental!! What does that make everyone else, I wonder? :/
Anyways, I do not like people who are jerks for no good reason. And I try to avoid being overly hurtful to people, especially the ones I do not know. I try to speak about people with whom I am not familiar with respect and an awareness of what can happen in a person's life to make them the way they are. It bothers me when other people do not do the same. :( Which is why I do not have a lot of good friends I suppose- my standards are apparently kind of high. Or something. But I am not going to lower them.
I miss my friends from college, I don't like living at home, and the more time I spend with people the more I remember why I don't have a lot of friends.
When I go without people for a long time I get a strong urge to go hang out with people and make friends. BUT THEN!! Then I remember why I didn't hang out with them earlier. And why I don't have a lot of people I regularly call on as 'friends.'
I am a positive person. It's not hard for me to be outgoing or to make friends in new places. BUT HERE IS THE THING. I DO NOT NEED YOU AS A FRIEND. I WILL BE FINE WITHOUT YOU. AS MUCH AS IT SUCKS TO BE ALONE I HAVE DONE IT BEFORE AND IT IS BETTER THAN HANGING OUT WITH ASSHOLES. TRUE FACT.
If I consider you a friend, I have chosen you. It did not happen, as many will say, by accident. I have evaluated your character and personality and deemed you as someone A) likeable and B) not a jerk. If I do not consider you a 'friend,' it does not mean I dislike you. It may come down to something as silly as 'our personalities aren't compatible,' but it frequently means I don't like hanging out with you.
SO, when I end up hanging out with my good friend and some mutual acquaintances, I REMEMBERED ALL THIS.
You see, there is this girl who I knew before college and she was okay. I always liked hanging out with her on trips and things, but she got on my nerves some times. I remember why.
We were driving back from dinner and see some girls on a corner in clothes that were less than modest. BUT. Then this girl sticks her head out of my passenger window and says something slightly rude and completely uncalled for.
JUST. IT WAS COMPLETELY UNNECESSARY AND WAS NOTHING BUT HURTFUL.
If you're going to say something about their clothes and you do not know them, at least be kind about it. At least make it constructive and, if you're godly like I know she's supposed to be, show some love in it rather than making fun of them and saying they look 'skanky.'
I have been called 'the least judgmental person ever.' But I feel judgmental!! What does that make everyone else, I wonder? :/
Anyways, I do not like people who are jerks for no good reason. And I try to avoid being overly hurtful to people, especially the ones I do not know. I try to speak about people with whom I am not familiar with respect and an awareness of what can happen in a person's life to make them the way they are. It bothers me when other people do not do the same. :( Which is why I do not have a lot of good friends I suppose- my standards are apparently kind of high. Or something. But I am not going to lower them.