Bit of a rant
So my roommate confessed to me that my S.O. is scared. He's scared he's not going to know what to do once the baby is born, that he's not going to be a good father, that he doesn't know why we need so much baby stuff, and the "what if"s (said roommate is currently fighting for custody of his little girl and it hurts us all to watch it happening). So now I'm trying to figure out a way to ease him on the issues and make him more comfortable. I only know so much about taking care of an infant, but it's obviously more than he does. The most I've thought about is letting him do more of the care (changing the diapers, washing, coddling, bottle feeding, etc...) so he'll get comfortable with her.
And I've admitted that I'm scared, too. I'm scared of not being able to provide or end up freaking out over something simple, not being a good mom. Yes, I'm scared of how things are going to be after the baby's born because it's the unknown. I'm trying to get him to open up to me the way I'm trying to open up to him about this.
We just hit the 7 month marker and considering all the stress we are still going through (1 year of battle with the roommates and bills) I'm surprised we haven't blown up on each other. His aunt is thinking about (or has already decided) to move out with her daughter (that means no rent, no cleaning, etc). If that happens, his cousin will sell the house and we get kicked out.
Needless to say, we're pissed. We decided to stay here after his cousin dropped the rent for us, so as to not stress out anyone else with bills. Knowing that we have nowhere to go, she springs that on us and casually tells me "Not that I mean to stress you out or anything." So I've spent the last two days looking for work, checking out apartments, getting rid of stuff, and getting used to the fact that I will most likely have to get rid of my dog. But I'm not stressing out.
And I've admitted that I'm scared, too. I'm scared of not being able to provide or end up freaking out over something simple, not being a good mom. Yes, I'm scared of how things are going to be after the baby's born because it's the unknown. I'm trying to get him to open up to me the way I'm trying to open up to him about this.
We just hit the 7 month marker and considering all the stress we are still going through (1 year of battle with the roommates and bills) I'm surprised we haven't blown up on each other. His aunt is thinking about (or has already decided) to move out with her daughter (that means no rent, no cleaning, etc). If that happens, his cousin will sell the house and we get kicked out.
Needless to say, we're pissed. We decided to stay here after his cousin dropped the rent for us, so as to not stress out anyone else with bills. Knowing that we have nowhere to go, she springs that on us and casually tells me "Not that I mean to stress you out or anything." So I've spent the last two days looking for work, checking out apartments, getting rid of stuff, and getting used to the fact that I will most likely have to get rid of my dog. But I'm not stressing out.