Irritated
Ok, on one hand, I have a friends Journal who points to the article about the cafe A Taste of Heaven and their policies on children. http://www.detnews.com/2005/editorial/0511/20/A23-387307.htm This of course was implemented because yuppie parents are
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I am probably just being overly-sensitive to it. I just feel like frequently in the last couple years I have been subjected to various attitudes simply because Sara exists. She is not a bad kid, and has never acted out to the degree described in the article, but has cried or fussed and needed to be dealt with. When these events have happened and sometimes even without them, there is social pressure and nasty looks to basically remove her or duct tape her mouth or something.
If it is a backlash from other non-responsive parents, I am not sure it makes it better. At least give me the opportunity to show that I am a worthless irresponsible parent before treating me and my children like I am.
Also, like I said above, it is more the examples used that irritated me. And again, it could be an overly sensitive interpretation, but I stand by it, in that the screamer comment revealed a more negative attitude than the reasonable one the owner was trying to project.
The examples are extreme and I guess I didn't see an example from the article of what constitutes ok behavior other than sitting quietly in their seats which no child does 100% of the time. I would honestly have been happier if the sign just said something like no one under 16 permitted. It felt to me that was a better representation of their policy.
Wanting to have adult time, and freedom from kids is perfectly fine, trust me, I, probably more than any of you guys, want freedom from kids sometimes.
I think the only real difference of opinion out here on this issue is that I feel I am a reasonbly good parent, and I am being affected through social pressures by other bad parents for no good reason. Maybe being a white suburbanite male I deserve a small taste of discrimination to try and see what those who really have it bad have to go through. There we go. I think I will approach it with this attitude from now on. I am sure that it is right and healthy. I deserve it cause I could use a little dose of discrimination to remind me how good it is to be a white male in our world. Now I finally can see where my daughter got her drama queen behavior. It's all me baby.
Anyway, all kidding aside, I do think it is getting unreasonable and people's attitudes about the presence of kids seems to be overly hostile to me.
The funny thing is, I didn't really even mean for this post to be about kids, but more about extremism. I just used what I felt was an extreme example to illustrate my point. Obviously, I either focused too much on the example to make the point, or it wasn't as extreme as I thought it was or both.
Ah well, see ya Saturday hopefully.
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