meh, i need to rant. really badly.
so recently some girls from our campus got their shit stolen. and now people are getting all paranoid and are talking of installing more cameras and more check-ins. and then this one girl posted on community (a type of school message board thing mostly used as a bitchfest procrastination tool) that she said "call me a facist" but she'd love to have more cameras and security because she was so frightened of the wellesley campus. WOW. first of all, anyone terrified of the wellesley campus is just a big fucking pussy. so my friend amberlynn posted as a response "I doubt most Fascists would live in constant paranoia of random strangers roaming their halls. Most fascists would just kick this non-existent scary stranger's ass." But then, when this girl realized that my friend was calling her paranoid, she did the inevitable. She wrote "Wow, what an insensitive thing to say to a rape survivor. Congratulations. You win a cookie." That's it, go and pull the rape card. I see this as no different than people saying "I'm black!" or "My people were in the holocaust!" just to win an argument. So then my friend replied with "I am very sorry you interpreted my comment as an attack on a very serious life event which I had no idea of knowing about. I in no way take something like that lightly and was responding only to the use of the word facist and what I saw as ridiculous paranoia about safety on campus in this thread. I truly apologize if you felt in any way that your experience was belittled and now I understand the context of your overt concern." This I thought was a very good response. And then the girl came back again, in complete disrespect wrote "Ummm sure. Whatever. In the future, try not to use peoples posts to mock supposed paranoia if they just admitted that they had to leave campus bc they feared for their safety.*shrug* Just seems like a good rule of thumb." This is when I got angry. This girl was definitely using rape as a tool of leverage in her argument.
So I wrote "First of all, 'supposed' paranoia?
And second of all, since you've left campus, have there been a significant increase in safety (i.e. guardian robots in the manner of Terminator bots with anti-rape laser functions) or have you just not been raped because it's not exactly something that happens every single day?"
Of course I got flamed.
and then the girl wrote "Wow...an attack of someone for feeling unsafe. How keen.
Ummm having left campus I took a course in self defense, now take a martial art, educated myself on how to tell if a drink is drugged (shake it, if it froths it has something in it) so now I not only watch my drink like a hawk (as I did before) but I shake it before I drink it -- even if it was just given to me by a bartender, I no longer trust people as easily, I no longer go out to bar unless I am with someone I trust and that list is EXTREMELY small.
So yes, I have taken actions.
And my suppposed paranoia came from the fact that some student allowed my rapist into my dorm after he raped me and he roamed the dorm freely looking for me.
So I'm sorry, it was NOT supposed paranoia, or paranoia if someone is actually out to get you.
AND FYI if someone is raped, their chances of being raped (a second time) are higher than someone who has never been raped...and actually, rape DOES happen everyday so kindly fuck off."
Hmm...
and then I wrote "Look, I'm sorry that you've been raped. I am not the insensitive ass that you seem to think I am. I do understand that rape is a tough subject. However, I do not approve of people bringing up the subject of rape in order to get a leverage in certain arguments (especially when this thread is about robbery). And I don't know where you get your statistics but I seriously doubt that anyone who has been raped once will have a higher chance of being raped again as opposed to someone who has never been raped. As you have certainly proved, you have taken on a great deal of effort (not to mention paranoia) as to never getting raped again. Thus, you are obviously more prepared than the average girl who drink whatever that is offered to her at parties. And when I said rape doesn't happen everyday, I mean it doesn't happen everyday to you. In fact, I doubt it'll happen again to you again with all the precautions you're taking. So, kindly retract your "fuck off" and refrain from giving more unnecessary details about your private life."
of course she then turned on the after school special and said "It is so easy for people to think that bad things cannot happen to them. That they cannot happen in Wellesley because it's a bubble where we think we are safer. And we are. But, along with this sense of security oftentimes comes naivety and complacency. So, my intention of revealing said personal information is to try and snap people out of that. Yes Wellesley is safer than the average place but that does not mean that NOTHING bad happens. And as such, either we have to exercise personal responsibility (not allowing random people in for example) or slowly, the safe environment Wellesley is will disappear.
I said what I did about my life because it says you know what? It can happen here too. And rather than say some abstract "well someone could be raped or attacked" I wanted to say, "hey, this did happen to me so it's not just an abstraction.""
hmmm, at this point, with no one backing me up, I decided to just end the argument with "Oh, I see. You're basically denoting Wellesley women as idiots who believe crime as a sort of impossible phenomenon at Wellesley. We don't need more people like you spouting information just to gain attention/sympathy when we can easily turn on the tv and catch a "Law & Order: SVU" rerun."
I've been flamed alot by now. And, well, let's just say that I will never win the argument unless I say something like "A white nazi raped me!" But I won't because I'm not a shithead. Unlike some mindless empaths on this campus.
So I wrote "First of all, 'supposed' paranoia?
And second of all, since you've left campus, have there been a significant increase in safety (i.e. guardian robots in the manner of Terminator bots with anti-rape laser functions) or have you just not been raped because it's not exactly something that happens every single day?"
Of course I got flamed.
and then the girl wrote "Wow...an attack of someone for feeling unsafe. How keen.
Ummm having left campus I took a course in self defense, now take a martial art, educated myself on how to tell if a drink is drugged (shake it, if it froths it has something in it) so now I not only watch my drink like a hawk (as I did before) but I shake it before I drink it -- even if it was just given to me by a bartender, I no longer trust people as easily, I no longer go out to bar unless I am with someone I trust and that list is EXTREMELY small.
So yes, I have taken actions.
And my suppposed paranoia came from the fact that some student allowed my rapist into my dorm after he raped me and he roamed the dorm freely looking for me.
So I'm sorry, it was NOT supposed paranoia, or paranoia if someone is actually out to get you.
AND FYI if someone is raped, their chances of being raped (a second time) are higher than someone who has never been raped...and actually, rape DOES happen everyday so kindly fuck off."
Hmm...
and then I wrote "Look, I'm sorry that you've been raped. I am not the insensitive ass that you seem to think I am. I do understand that rape is a tough subject. However, I do not approve of people bringing up the subject of rape in order to get a leverage in certain arguments (especially when this thread is about robbery). And I don't know where you get your statistics but I seriously doubt that anyone who has been raped once will have a higher chance of being raped again as opposed to someone who has never been raped. As you have certainly proved, you have taken on a great deal of effort (not to mention paranoia) as to never getting raped again. Thus, you are obviously more prepared than the average girl who drink whatever that is offered to her at parties. And when I said rape doesn't happen everyday, I mean it doesn't happen everyday to you. In fact, I doubt it'll happen again to you again with all the precautions you're taking. So, kindly retract your "fuck off" and refrain from giving more unnecessary details about your private life."
of course she then turned on the after school special and said "It is so easy for people to think that bad things cannot happen to them. That they cannot happen in Wellesley because it's a bubble where we think we are safer. And we are. But, along with this sense of security oftentimes comes naivety and complacency. So, my intention of revealing said personal information is to try and snap people out of that. Yes Wellesley is safer than the average place but that does not mean that NOTHING bad happens. And as such, either we have to exercise personal responsibility (not allowing random people in for example) or slowly, the safe environment Wellesley is will disappear.
I said what I did about my life because it says you know what? It can happen here too. And rather than say some abstract "well someone could be raped or attacked" I wanted to say, "hey, this did happen to me so it's not just an abstraction.""
hmmm, at this point, with no one backing me up, I decided to just end the argument with "Oh, I see. You're basically denoting Wellesley women as idiots who believe crime as a sort of impossible phenomenon at Wellesley. We don't need more people like you spouting information just to gain attention/sympathy when we can easily turn on the tv and catch a "Law & Order: SVU" rerun."
I've been flamed alot by now. And, well, let's just say that I will never win the argument unless I say something like "A white nazi raped me!" But I won't because I'm not a shithead. Unlike some mindless empaths on this campus.