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love tokens

Aug 15, 2006 20:23

I am thoughtful this evening, on the subject of love tokens - all kinds. Romantic, intimate, friendship, other kinds of bonds; and every type of thing: wedding rings, body mods, furniture, animals, and so on ( Read more... )

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epeolatry August 16 2006, 04:03:58 UTC

to commemorate 100 days since our first date, my fantastic amazing gf gave me a box filled with hershey kisses. taped to each kiss was one reason that my gf loves me.

i sat at the dining room table and read every single one of them, and cried tears of gratitude and joy.

sapphirejade098 August 16 2006, 05:09:12 UTC

That is really wonderful. :)

epeolatry August 16 2006, 12:18:41 UTC

i <3 your icon...

it was wonderful. :)

sapphirejade098 August 16 2006, 05:08:47 UTC

Good topic :)

I have a few good examples. One is my friend Allie giving me a lovely copy of The Fountainhead. I hadn't read it yet, but once I had, the gift was perfect. I can't really describe it beyond that. She is my best friend, and she's straight and our relationship is entirely platonic and very deep and very peaceful.

Another example was a sword mounted on wood for my wall, and it had a nameplate thing on the wood, and it was really amazing and perfect and cool and everything and then the relationship soured and exploded. I'm still unsure as to what to do with it because it's nice but the nameplate has both our names on it and this person and I no longer speak at all. I was thinking of just removing the nameplate but that doesn't really make it any less HER token. But again, it's beautiful and it seems a waste to throw it out, so I'm not sure what I'm going to do with it.

I don't know if I'd ever do a body mod thing - it's really not my style and technically traditional Jewish law I think prohibits tattoos anyhow.

outdoortoys August 16 2006, 12:51:24 UTC

Keep the sword, and the nameplate. You probably won't always view things the way you do now. And you can always use it as a reminder of when things were good.

mamalapingapunt August 16 2006, 06:38:33 UTC

My last partner and I were going through a rough patch and we were both depressed. One day while I was out window shopping, I saw a little stone with "happiness" engraved on it. I bought it and put it under his pillow, but said nothing to him. Things started to get better almost immediatly and when he found it a few days later, the best phase of our relationship began. I told him not to keep the stone though, and to pass it on to someone else in need. He gave it to his best friend who was going through a rough patch.

Things given power danibearess August 16 2006, 06:53:47 UTC

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Love tokens can become very powerful when they transcend being a love gift received to become talismans of shared dreams. The power of an object depends on what we believe it means, it's that shared belief that can make mere objects a physical reminder of the ethereal things that romantic love (aka lust and trust) is.
Keys have always been meaningful to me, mostly because of the trust implied and permission bestowed, they have magic beyond their practicality. Whether house keys, car keys, lock or cuff keys, their passage can be very symbolic in a relationship.
There have been other things, like collars offered (once purchased, once crafted), contracts created and signed and the little bitty leather restraints that I got (one for her to keep, one to be mine) that I wore on my belt as a token as long as I felt I had her confidence. I've gotten much comfort (and a sense of support) from having a concrete reminder of someone's faith in me.

that (feeling the weight of symbols) SpencerBear

wickedladybear August 16 2006, 07:10:54 UTC

I gave my wyfe and our two girls each a small necklace, a cirle that says "love never ends" (they used to have pink stones but they fall out easily. . .) All three of them wear them all the time ( ... )