v-day is almost upon us!

[positronik]

so i noticed that valentines day is almost here(fuck you hallmark), and yet again i'm single. what ever shall i do? i can't decide if i want to have a party to celebrate being single, which means all my non-single friends can't be invited. or maybe just having a party for everyone. or drinking myself into oblivion

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[freebirdpat]

I went without sex for two years. I trained hard on being single, and dealing with being single. Over the years, I have seen girls that I was attracted to and considered that we could maybe have something together. I considered that having a relationship with them, could prove to be interesting. 99.9% of the time it never went anywhere, and a large percentage of that I didn't even talk to directly, I just knew of them. Anyhow, so what its valentines day, I know in grade school and such, everyone gave everyone else a valentine... and for me at least, I always wrote something special to those dear to me, and mind you I never had a g/f. Its a holiday to celebrate love, something that all humans seem to do naturally, and it doesn't have to involve your SO, because some people don't have them. Hell I have spent several V-days alone, and I couldn't care less... I spent New Years Eve alone last year, that was sort of depressing since I knew where everyone else was and having a good time. So I vowed to have a good time myself, I got some red bull and some grey goose vodka(vanilla) and drank a bit... I didn't have a good time, because I knew people cared about me, they were just off doing other things.

You're valentine doesn't have to be your lover, your g/f.... You could ask a friend, maybe a single one that you know or maybe one who's SO is out of town or lives long distance, and say hey, will you be my valentine this year? we can go out to dinner, maybe rent some movies or do whatever, and tell them that you just want to spend time with someone and have a good time with them, and it isn't sexual, or SO type stuff, its just spending time with someone, maybe someone you love and care about as a friend.

Remember life is what you make of it, and if something bothers you and you don't know how to deal with it, or you deal with it and get a negative emotion, try and find a way to get a postive experience out of the deal, and denial of a problem is the first sign of a problem.