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I'll sum it up for you and I'll keep it general.
I have a friend who lost their fiance. This person is very grief stricken of course and I want to be someone they can count on for support...
They turned into another person after this all happened, which is certainly understandable. The problem is that I no longer know how to talk to her. It's like I tread on thin ice around her... not that she has made this climate for me. I made it for myself. I got it in my head somewhere that she's made of glass more or less... I am terrified to say anything to her, afraid mentioning her late fiance even in a good way, even in asking anything about them just makes it all worse.
In my head I think maybe talking about it will help, and part of me is just plain curious when they are brought up in conversation... this doesn't happen often but I feel worse every time.I keep myself silent and I know my anxiety about remaining silent is my own fault. I feel guilty even saying anything about my anxiety. It's petty, it's just me being weak or wanting attention. I need to be the strength for her, not caving under myself.
[Just thought maybe venting here would help]
I have a friend who lost their fiance. This person is very grief stricken of course and I want to be someone they can count on for support...
They turned into another person after this all happened, which is certainly understandable. The problem is that I no longer know how to talk to her. It's like I tread on thin ice around her... not that she has made this climate for me. I made it for myself. I got it in my head somewhere that she's made of glass more or less... I am terrified to say anything to her, afraid mentioning her late fiance even in a good way, even in asking anything about them just makes it all worse.
In my head I think maybe talking about it will help, and part of me is just plain curious when they are brought up in conversation... this doesn't happen often but I feel worse every time.I keep myself silent and I know my anxiety about remaining silent is my own fault. I feel guilty even saying anything about my anxiety. It's petty, it's just me being weak or wanting attention. I need to be the strength for her, not caving under myself.
[Just thought maybe venting here would help]