I wish I could disappear...

[popsiclehands]

 I give up. I just don't want to do any of this anymore. I everyone would leave me alone. I wish all this work, and feelings of "have to" and "it's my job" would just go away. I don't want this. I just want everyone to figure it out or leave me alone. I hate people who say they want to help but just make things worse. It feels like every well

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[leafing]

Wow, could you be more of a condescending jerk if you tried? Maybe you're the one who needs to do the growing up here.

Let me tell you something, cupcake: emotional problems can be just as, if not more crippling than a vast array of physical problems. The extent of most external help for these types of issues is people assuring each other that "everything will be okay." And that's alright, there are good intentions, but the reality is that these problems don't always fix themselves, and even if they do they don't always do it in a timely manner.

On the other hand, I cannot possibly see any redeeming qualities in your argument.

Just because someone's not starving to death in some third world country doesn't mean that they don't have problems, and it sure as hell doesn't mean that their problems are any less valid than anyone else's. When something is inhibiting someone from functioning to this extent, it's kind of important.

Comments like this are exactly what prevent people from getting the help they need and discussing their problems openly - in other words, doing something about them. Talking about your problems is being proactive and receiving input in order to hopefully solve them. This sort of petty criticism is why people bottle things up, and this is why people have long term issues that snowball from bad days. If someone has to let off some steam, for the love of god let them let it off and don't give them crap for it. Especially if it's done in a respectful, modest, harmless way such as this.

Otherwise you're just encouraging people to feel bad about feeling bad. Is that what you want? To perpetuate a loop of bad feelings and kill any chance at progress toward fixing a problem? To turn a problem into a bigger problem? To tell someone that while they're feeling awful they should feel even worse because those feelings aren't acceptable?

I should hope not. If you haven't got anything potentially healing to say, sit down and shut up.