give me advice. even if it's anonymous. just comment.

[pop_miasma]

put yourself in this general situation.
the basic lowdown: a decision has to be made. you have a few weeks left to make this decision. parties affected by this decision include you and someone you love. goal #1, which ranks as top priority: preserve happiness of loved one. goal #2: get "closure" for yourself, whatever that is.

option a: take

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[pop_miasma]

nothing short of the east coast falling off into the ocean would stop me from leaving o.o; no matter what the outcome, i'm still taking off.

i don't trust people
and i don't know if i trust anyone to 'forgive' me because i don't have much experience with being forgiven. i don't usually have anything i apologize for. things i should have apologized for, that's open to debate, but either way i rarely have anything i'm asking for forgiveness over. and i'm thinking....and i think that's only happened with two people...one of them took years to really get over it, and i tortured myself the entire damn time. that whole thing is part of what is driving my sorry ass away to baltimore, to this day!! i mean, how fucked up is that, that the people you love the most seem to be the ones that you're apologizing to the most? but the bottom line is, i don't really know how to deal with having my apologies rejected because i have so little experience with the shit. what on earth are you supposed to do when you absolutely love someone, and they don't accept your apology? that is the question i pose to you, because i honestly don't know the answer. because this time, i don't have a few years to prove my worthiness again and eventually get that forgiveness. :\

[somuchope]

geez, that's a hard question to answer :\

well, it seems, that if you apologize to someone, and you genuinely show yourself to be sorry, then its mostly out of your hands, that is, as long as you don't do whatever it was you're apologiizing for again and renew the pain of it. If the person you're after acceptance from is someone who really does care about you, then they will forgive you for just about anything you could do. Some say that love means never having to say you're sorry, but i think that's an extremely misleading statement. I do think that it is true though, that if love exists between people, that it iwll be strong enough to mend most any hardship or wounding.

I don't usually like the sound of someone leaving everything behind because of hard feelings with someone else, but i don't really know the situation, as sarah seems to be trying to point out, and i respect your decision making skills, so i'll assume that a fresh start is for the best on this one.

You do what you can to find forgiveness from them, but in the end, its going to be up to them. As long as you've made it clear that you're sorry, in a humble way, and have made a move, if needed, to make whatever was wronged right.

The more detailed information i have, the more detailed advice i can give.... i don't know how useful i'm being thus far