I don't have time for that anymore... Or do I?
Last night and this morning, I've been in quite a bit of pain.... from my waist/lower back down, and the carpal tunnel. But enough about me....
There's someone that I work with, that I complain about frequently - (doesn't everyone.) (and yes, I left that open deliberately. Does everyone complain about him, or does everyone complain about someone they work with? You decide.)
Last year he was a complete and total mess. He was not on time for work a single day out of all the time we worked together. He'd come in in the foulest mood, go over to the other room and watch football on TV, leave the entire gym to me, and check in during commercials. I talked to him several times about how I didn't think what he was doing was fair to me, and he'd swear up and down things would be different next week. They never were.
Until I hear he got fired from his other job. It's almost as if this curse was a blessing. He is new and improved. Two weeks in a row he was in early, opened the gym, in good spirits, and actually beat me to most of the tasks that needed doing throughout the day. How long can he keep it up? I hope he can maintain this new attitude indefinitely!
Yesterday I had a small sad when I came in... of course I put on a cheery face at work, but when we were alone I explained that I had a sad earlier that day, and it wasn't until I struggled through, and met with his attitude that I started to feel better.
He replied to me, "I've decided I don't have time to feel down anymore. It's 2009, a new year, I don't have time for all that. I've only got time for the good now."
It has long been a theory of mine that happiness is nothing more than a state of mind. I say in my video blog, "If you are smart enough, or dumb enough, to convince yourself that you are happy, no matter the facts to the contrary, then you can be happy."
Tougher than it sounds sometimes, but I'm watching him do it.
'Course I don't know how he is when he is alone, (and of course I don't want to know. That is a whole 'nuther matter entirely.) And actual legitimate depression is a tough thing to battle.
Then there was that one paranormal state episode, and a church group that I fell in for a time with, that treated depression as an actual spirit or demonic influence. Well, hell... why not? No one really knows what depression is... if it works to think of it as an evil spirit influence and fight it that way, it might be just as effective as trial and error method of finding the right depression medicine, right?
Then there is always the distraction method. Or excercise, finding the right endorphine to counter the doldrums.
The point is... we DO have control... if we choose to take that responsibility. Either say, "I don't have time for that anymore... or else make the deliberate attempt to change it." The point is recongnizing and putting the brakes on. How long can we keep it up? I hope that any of us who chooses can keep it up indefinitely!
No, it's not always easy... but here's to the continued effort. Many happy returns blossoming from many more years of trial and error leading to trial and success.
There's someone that I work with, that I complain about frequently - (doesn't everyone.) (and yes, I left that open deliberately. Does everyone complain about him, or does everyone complain about someone they work with? You decide.)
Last year he was a complete and total mess. He was not on time for work a single day out of all the time we worked together. He'd come in in the foulest mood, go over to the other room and watch football on TV, leave the entire gym to me, and check in during commercials. I talked to him several times about how I didn't think what he was doing was fair to me, and he'd swear up and down things would be different next week. They never were.
Until I hear he got fired from his other job. It's almost as if this curse was a blessing. He is new and improved. Two weeks in a row he was in early, opened the gym, in good spirits, and actually beat me to most of the tasks that needed doing throughout the day. How long can he keep it up? I hope he can maintain this new attitude indefinitely!
Yesterday I had a small sad when I came in... of course I put on a cheery face at work, but when we were alone I explained that I had a sad earlier that day, and it wasn't until I struggled through, and met with his attitude that I started to feel better.
He replied to me, "I've decided I don't have time to feel down anymore. It's 2009, a new year, I don't have time for all that. I've only got time for the good now."
It has long been a theory of mine that happiness is nothing more than a state of mind. I say in my video blog, "If you are smart enough, or dumb enough, to convince yourself that you are happy, no matter the facts to the contrary, then you can be happy."
Tougher than it sounds sometimes, but I'm watching him do it.
'Course I don't know how he is when he is alone, (and of course I don't want to know. That is a whole 'nuther matter entirely.) And actual legitimate depression is a tough thing to battle.
Then there was that one paranormal state episode, and a church group that I fell in for a time with, that treated depression as an actual spirit or demonic influence. Well, hell... why not? No one really knows what depression is... if it works to think of it as an evil spirit influence and fight it that way, it might be just as effective as trial and error method of finding the right depression medicine, right?
Then there is always the distraction method. Or excercise, finding the right endorphine to counter the doldrums.
The point is... we DO have control... if we choose to take that responsibility. Either say, "I don't have time for that anymore... or else make the deliberate attempt to change it." The point is recongnizing and putting the brakes on. How long can we keep it up? I hope that any of us who chooses can keep it up indefinitely!
No, it's not always easy... but here's to the continued effort. Many happy returns blossoming from many more years of trial and error leading to trial and success.