Update and Request for Info
Hi everyone
First I'd like to thank everyone who took time to respond to my last frantic post. I had some frank conversation with my sweetie and it turns out that what I thought he had said, he had not in fact said. His wife is fine with us being together, has been happy to talk about it with me, and is happy for me to be in their house. Her issue arises only from me sleeping in their house with my sweetie, as their kids are an issue in that regard. No dramas.
The drama llama that hit me was my husband hitting the veto button last weekend. It was unexpected and completely arbitrary. It appears to be tied up with his self esteem as he is convinced I'm going to leave him. We also have a codependency issue that I hadn't realised the full extent of. So I had sort of a miserable week this week.
Despite saying in the past that he wouldn't, my husband has now said that he is willing to see a poly friendly counsellor with a view to dealing with his emotional issues and perhaps to see if he can be helped to see what good can come from me having a relationship with my sweetie as well.
So I've come to ask if anyone knows poly friendly counsellors in Australia, or alternatively (aside from the obvious) what types of questions I could ask before making appointments to ascertain the counsellor's level of poly friendliness.
Thanks everyone.
First I'd like to thank everyone who took time to respond to my last frantic post. I had some frank conversation with my sweetie and it turns out that what I thought he had said, he had not in fact said. His wife is fine with us being together, has been happy to talk about it with me, and is happy for me to be in their house. Her issue arises only from me sleeping in their house with my sweetie, as their kids are an issue in that regard. No dramas.
The drama llama that hit me was my husband hitting the veto button last weekend. It was unexpected and completely arbitrary. It appears to be tied up with his self esteem as he is convinced I'm going to leave him. We also have a codependency issue that I hadn't realised the full extent of. So I had sort of a miserable week this week.
Despite saying in the past that he wouldn't, my husband has now said that he is willing to see a poly friendly counsellor with a view to dealing with his emotional issues and perhaps to see if he can be helped to see what good can come from me having a relationship with my sweetie as well.
So I've come to ask if anyone knows poly friendly counsellors in Australia, or alternatively (aside from the obvious) what types of questions I could ask before making appointments to ascertain the counsellor's level of poly friendliness.
Thanks everyone.