All About Sex!
First off, I'd like to say that this came from my friend's myspace journal. =) All credit goes to him or... wherever he got the info.. haha
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This is not a ploy to get your attention, this blog/rant is completely about sex.
Those of you that know me, even just slightly, know I have a slight inclanation towards anything erotic. Personally, I blame the hormones, but if that isn't a good enough excuse for you, then I blame other people for the corruption of my sweet little innocent mind... Look, if the Government can blame other people for their problems, why can't I?
Anyways, I digress.
Back to the topic... SEX.
Possibly the second most participated hobby on Earth (we all know the first is reading about it... 'touch here, insert finger here' etc etc.. joke!) yet it's still such a taboo and in some circles *cough* religious *cough* reveared. Shocking I know but true.
Certain circles suggest sex before marriage is bad for example. If a person wants to wait until they are married before they lose their virginity then fair enough, that's their choice, I won't argue with that. However, what I do have a problem with are people preaching to me that it's a sin to have sex, make love, fuck (whatever you want to call it), before one is married, and that we shall burn in hell for doing it! Some people may argue it's because sex is sacred. Some may argue it's because the act of sexual intercourse (yes, I said intercourse), is a step towards adulthood, the power and willingness of ones own mind to make a decision, and thus loosen the power and restraints over said person's being. Does that make sense? Possibly not, but neither does the fact that sex before marriage is a sin so I think we're even.
Moving on...
Sex and society, or better yet, sex in society. Let's deal with sex and society first.
Once again, sex in some coutries, counties, towns, is frowned upon. Possibly not noticeably but looked upon with distaste nonetheless. For example, the absolute refusal of some parents and schools to give comprehensive sex education, or almost just as bad, making sex out to be a bad thing when they do. Which surprisingly doesn't have the effect they were hoping for. You tell someone no, they ask why. You don't give a reason, they look for one. They can't find one and this makes it more appealing. PLUS, as most of us know, the idea of doing something naughty just makes it more exciting *wink*, and thus when an opportunity arises *ahem* they are a hell of a lot more likely to do something about it. Teenage pregnancy numbers increase etc etc, and then everyone wonders what went 'wrong' with that sweet little girl, and boy. Here's a clue... NOTHING! They didn't do anything wrong (unless illegal), they just didn't do anything right either, like use protection.
I am not suggesting that parents, teachers etc should discuss every single in and out about sex, pardon the pun, just not to pretend that children are never going to think about sex or want to have sex. Hiding in the corner with ones head buried in the sand has never solved anything as far as I'm aware.
The taboo that is sex isn't just limited to children or teens either. It follows us into adulthood. Sure, we're allowed to drink, drive, buy a house, have a mortgage, and YET, we are still supposed to conform to certain 'rules'. For example, one night stands are bad... WRONG. Granted, they might not be to everyones liking but that doesn't mean they're bad. Like everything they have advantages and disadvantages. One night stands allow a person to 'explore' what he/she likes for example. You don't have to worry about asking for what you want (if you ever do that is), and you can be that insatiable siren, or sex machine (if you're not already), that you've always wanted to be but always worried that you couldn't. Disadvantages... you become an insatiable sex siren, sex machine... lol. Seriously though, one night stands can be dangerous, physically and emotionally, so unless you are prepared to face up to the consequances of them, then avoid them at all costs.
There is however, another way of finding out about what you like and dislike (to some extent), and the best news is, you already know the perfect person to practise with! Yes, you've guessed it, that person is me! Lol, only joking. I'm talking about you.
And yet again we have come across another anathema of society. Masturbation, wanking, playing with oneself, stroking the petal, whatever you want to call, is considered disgusting by many, and absolutely abominable by some.
Heaven forbid I should explore my own body, and have fun in the process. How absurd! I have yet to meet anyone who has gone blind from excessive masturbation, although I do know some strong contenders lol. I do however, know couples whos sex life and rate of success when attaining an orgasm have improved greatly due to some much neede self exploration. If you don't know what you want, how are other people supposed to know? EXACTLY! Plus there's also the benefits of strong wrists, great forearms, and nimble fingers, which could always come in handy =D lol.
Moving swiftly on to another topic which involves exploration, and yes, another taboo, there is the idea of having sex out of the bedroom. Some people already do, some people think it should be confined to one room. Personally I like variety. Granted, it's not always possible to have sex in every room of the house or be spontaneous in doing so (possibly another reason to use protection in your teens, lol), but damn it, it can be done! Where there's a will, there's a way!
Of course if you're really feeling adventurous, you can take it, or more precisely him or her, outside, and puch that taboo a little further. I'm not suggesting ripping eachothers clothes off in the middle of a busy street because that can cause a number of problems such as arrests and traffic accidents, but there's no reason (accept possibly a few laws here and there) as to why with discretion, sex can't be enjoyed outdoors as well as indoors. Welcome to the extremely enjoyable art of alfresco sex!
Don't get me wrong, alfresco sex isn't for everyone. Of course, if you don't want to take it outside, or even out of the bedroom, there are still numerous ways to add to/ spice up ye olde love life (and still piss society off, pardon the language).
There are accessories such as handcuffs, blindfolds, massage oils, lubricants... and for the more adventurous there are vibrators and dildos, anal or vaginal beads... the list goes on. Of course, even acknowledging a sex shop can receive clucks of disapproval, and going in can earn gasps of horror, but that's a small price to pay when you consider the marvelous possibilties. Then again, if you can't afford a trip to the local sex shop, then make your own accessories. Use a tie to bind hands or feet instead of handcuffs. Use a scarf as a blindfold. As for the more adventurous accessories, use your imagination although I know a few horror stories involving fruit just to warn you, and none of them personal I might add!
Then of course, there are positons to spice things up. Dont get me wrong, the Kama Sutra is a great book, but it's not advisable unless you're very flexible or prepared to train to be. Solution? Invent your own. Keep it simple. Adapt missionary, adapt doggy, or just make up your own, the important thing is to have fun and more importantly have a laugh about it!
Now we approach one of the biggest of all sex taboos! The 'two is comapny but three plus is a party' kind of adventure. Can be fun, can be painful (in more ways than one), depends on the personalities of the people involved. NOT SOMETHING TO TRY HALF HEARTEDLY WHEN IN A RELATIONSHIP. Can improve sex life, can destroy relationship. That's a gamble that only those involved can take.
Threesomes, foursomes, orgies, swinging... Personally, I think if everyone participating is doing so of their own free will and no one will get hurt, then go for it but remember there are consequences and repercussions.
So why have I digressed somewhat and am now talking about accessories, postions etc? Quite simply, because the more such things are talked about openly, the less of a stigma sex will be, and that's my point.
To conclude, don't be afraid about talking about sex. Whether it's talking to a partner about what you want or they want (which I strongly recommend and encourage) or even asking a friend for advice, it doesn't matter, just talk. Oh, and if someone doe seek advice from you, don't laugh at that person. Take it as a compliment, and admire how much it took of that person to ask you in the first place.
Providing no one gets hurt (unless that's what they're into, and which is a completely different topic) then don't be afraid to go for what you want, talk about what you want, and basically just damn well enjoy yourself. And by the way, don't expect every single one of your whims or fantasies to be met by approval from your partner/s. It doesn't work like that I'm afraid, or at least not all the time. The important thing though is that you can talk about it.
I'm not suggesting either, that everyone should sleep around, try bondage or buy shares in sex shops. All I am saying is to do what feels right for you and not what society dictates (providing no one gets hurt etc etc).
I don't expect everyone if anyone to agree with what I've written, but if it gets you thinking or talking about it then I'm happy, and my work here is done!
For now... ;)
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Wow, such wonderful words Jonathan =) Hehehe...
Anyone read all of it? I did. =P
~Angelo
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This is not a ploy to get your attention, this blog/rant is completely about sex.
Those of you that know me, even just slightly, know I have a slight inclanation towards anything erotic. Personally, I blame the hormones, but if that isn't a good enough excuse for you, then I blame other people for the corruption of my sweet little innocent mind... Look, if the Government can blame other people for their problems, why can't I?
Anyways, I digress.
Back to the topic... SEX.
Possibly the second most participated hobby on Earth (we all know the first is reading about it... 'touch here, insert finger here' etc etc.. joke!) yet it's still such a taboo and in some circles *cough* religious *cough* reveared. Shocking I know but true.
Certain circles suggest sex before marriage is bad for example. If a person wants to wait until they are married before they lose their virginity then fair enough, that's their choice, I won't argue with that. However, what I do have a problem with are people preaching to me that it's a sin to have sex, make love, fuck (whatever you want to call it), before one is married, and that we shall burn in hell for doing it! Some people may argue it's because sex is sacred. Some may argue it's because the act of sexual intercourse (yes, I said intercourse), is a step towards adulthood, the power and willingness of ones own mind to make a decision, and thus loosen the power and restraints over said person's being. Does that make sense? Possibly not, but neither does the fact that sex before marriage is a sin so I think we're even.
Moving on...
Sex and society, or better yet, sex in society. Let's deal with sex and society first.
Once again, sex in some coutries, counties, towns, is frowned upon. Possibly not noticeably but looked upon with distaste nonetheless. For example, the absolute refusal of some parents and schools to give comprehensive sex education, or almost just as bad, making sex out to be a bad thing when they do. Which surprisingly doesn't have the effect they were hoping for. You tell someone no, they ask why. You don't give a reason, they look for one. They can't find one and this makes it more appealing. PLUS, as most of us know, the idea of doing something naughty just makes it more exciting *wink*, and thus when an opportunity arises *ahem* they are a hell of a lot more likely to do something about it. Teenage pregnancy numbers increase etc etc, and then everyone wonders what went 'wrong' with that sweet little girl, and boy. Here's a clue... NOTHING! They didn't do anything wrong (unless illegal), they just didn't do anything right either, like use protection.
I am not suggesting that parents, teachers etc should discuss every single in and out about sex, pardon the pun, just not to pretend that children are never going to think about sex or want to have sex. Hiding in the corner with ones head buried in the sand has never solved anything as far as I'm aware.
The taboo that is sex isn't just limited to children or teens either. It follows us into adulthood. Sure, we're allowed to drink, drive, buy a house, have a mortgage, and YET, we are still supposed to conform to certain 'rules'. For example, one night stands are bad... WRONG. Granted, they might not be to everyones liking but that doesn't mean they're bad. Like everything they have advantages and disadvantages. One night stands allow a person to 'explore' what he/she likes for example. You don't have to worry about asking for what you want (if you ever do that is), and you can be that insatiable siren, or sex machine (if you're not already), that you've always wanted to be but always worried that you couldn't. Disadvantages... you become an insatiable sex siren, sex machine... lol. Seriously though, one night stands can be dangerous, physically and emotionally, so unless you are prepared to face up to the consequances of them, then avoid them at all costs.
There is however, another way of finding out about what you like and dislike (to some extent), and the best news is, you already know the perfect person to practise with! Yes, you've guessed it, that person is me! Lol, only joking. I'm talking about you.
And yet again we have come across another anathema of society. Masturbation, wanking, playing with oneself, stroking the petal, whatever you want to call, is considered disgusting by many, and absolutely abominable by some.
Heaven forbid I should explore my own body, and have fun in the process. How absurd! I have yet to meet anyone who has gone blind from excessive masturbation, although I do know some strong contenders lol. I do however, know couples whos sex life and rate of success when attaining an orgasm have improved greatly due to some much neede self exploration. If you don't know what you want, how are other people supposed to know? EXACTLY! Plus there's also the benefits of strong wrists, great forearms, and nimble fingers, which could always come in handy =D lol.
Moving swiftly on to another topic which involves exploration, and yes, another taboo, there is the idea of having sex out of the bedroom. Some people already do, some people think it should be confined to one room. Personally I like variety. Granted, it's not always possible to have sex in every room of the house or be spontaneous in doing so (possibly another reason to use protection in your teens, lol), but damn it, it can be done! Where there's a will, there's a way!
Of course if you're really feeling adventurous, you can take it, or more precisely him or her, outside, and puch that taboo a little further. I'm not suggesting ripping eachothers clothes off in the middle of a busy street because that can cause a number of problems such as arrests and traffic accidents, but there's no reason (accept possibly a few laws here and there) as to why with discretion, sex can't be enjoyed outdoors as well as indoors. Welcome to the extremely enjoyable art of alfresco sex!
Don't get me wrong, alfresco sex isn't for everyone. Of course, if you don't want to take it outside, or even out of the bedroom, there are still numerous ways to add to/ spice up ye olde love life (and still piss society off, pardon the language).
There are accessories such as handcuffs, blindfolds, massage oils, lubricants... and for the more adventurous there are vibrators and dildos, anal or vaginal beads... the list goes on. Of course, even acknowledging a sex shop can receive clucks of disapproval, and going in can earn gasps of horror, but that's a small price to pay when you consider the marvelous possibilties. Then again, if you can't afford a trip to the local sex shop, then make your own accessories. Use a tie to bind hands or feet instead of handcuffs. Use a scarf as a blindfold. As for the more adventurous accessories, use your imagination although I know a few horror stories involving fruit just to warn you, and none of them personal I might add!
Then of course, there are positons to spice things up. Dont get me wrong, the Kama Sutra is a great book, but it's not advisable unless you're very flexible or prepared to train to be. Solution? Invent your own. Keep it simple. Adapt missionary, adapt doggy, or just make up your own, the important thing is to have fun and more importantly have a laugh about it!
Now we approach one of the biggest of all sex taboos! The 'two is comapny but three plus is a party' kind of adventure. Can be fun, can be painful (in more ways than one), depends on the personalities of the people involved. NOT SOMETHING TO TRY HALF HEARTEDLY WHEN IN A RELATIONSHIP. Can improve sex life, can destroy relationship. That's a gamble that only those involved can take.
Threesomes, foursomes, orgies, swinging... Personally, I think if everyone participating is doing so of their own free will and no one will get hurt, then go for it but remember there are consequences and repercussions.
So why have I digressed somewhat and am now talking about accessories, postions etc? Quite simply, because the more such things are talked about openly, the less of a stigma sex will be, and that's my point.
To conclude, don't be afraid about talking about sex. Whether it's talking to a partner about what you want or they want (which I strongly recommend and encourage) or even asking a friend for advice, it doesn't matter, just talk. Oh, and if someone doe seek advice from you, don't laugh at that person. Take it as a compliment, and admire how much it took of that person to ask you in the first place.
Providing no one gets hurt (unless that's what they're into, and which is a completely different topic) then don't be afraid to go for what you want, talk about what you want, and basically just damn well enjoy yourself. And by the way, don't expect every single one of your whims or fantasies to be met by approval from your partner/s. It doesn't work like that I'm afraid, or at least not all the time. The important thing though is that you can talk about it.
I'm not suggesting either, that everyone should sleep around, try bondage or buy shares in sex shops. All I am saying is to do what feels right for you and not what society dictates (providing no one gets hurt etc etc).
I don't expect everyone if anyone to agree with what I've written, but if it gets you thinking or talking about it then I'm happy, and my work here is done!
For now... ;)
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Wow, such wonderful words Jonathan =) Hehehe...
Anyone read all of it? I did. =P
~Angelo