*doesn't get it*

[poiyt]

A friend of mine (who confided in me she was prego - but isnt telling anyone...why people do this to me..ack!) anyways...after telling me there must be something wrong with me b/c we had been trying for like 8 months with no luck, and then finding out I still nurse Kahlan...informs me that she stopped breastfeeing her son b/c he likes formula

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[kandi_bomber]

meh, you are nicer than I am.
I HATE when people formula feed, i think its viewed as an equal form of feeding and its NOT.
so why is it so ok with everyone????

[poiyt]

I feel the same way as you do...I really do (though I didnt until I did research when Kahlan was born) - I just dont feel like arguing with everyone all the time. I bite my tongue, and say it could be much worse...

[kandi_bomber]

it could be, you are right.
I try not to get hung up about it when the choice is made and the damage is done...but it makes me so sad and angry inside.
Breastfeeding is normal, plain and simple.
It is not thats its better than formula, its that formula is worse.
I get giddy when I see moms in real life nursing (especially older babies)
I even approached a mom at a wedding in august whose son reminded me SO much of gage (and about the same age) beause I ntoiced he was still nursing and I wanted her to know how trhilled I was.
i think she truly appreciated it as most people think its too old.

[poiyt]

I had actually never thought of thate whole its not that breastmilk is better, its that formula is worse until I met latemove...but it makes complete sense and I wish places like the hospital and lll would approach it this way. Instead of making it a choice one or the other...it should be...well if you pick formula then you're already short changing your child kind of thing.

how long did you nurse your lo's for? I'm really hoping to just let kahlan wean herself...but am wondering if self weaning actually happens...

[kandi_bomber]

I nursed Summer for a little over a year (keep in mind I was only 17 too)
I nursed Kalista until she was 20months...she pretty much self weaned, but I did the "dont offer, dont refuse" approach.
I nursed Gage for 24months exactly (he has just weaned) and with him I was getting him out of nursing before sleep and with that, he didnt ask to nurse in the day anymore.

The site is down right now, but check out
breastfeedingisnormal.org
They are really trying to make it so bf is seen as the norm and that formula truly is lesser or made for babies for a truly in need (adopted, mom has no breasts etc)

I have known of two people EVER who truly coulndt nurse exclusively (they both had breast reductions) but they both nursed AND supplemented (actually, I nursed my newphew before she realized she couldnt nurse him exclusivley anymore...he had lost weight and she didnt want to give formula, so I nursed him!)

that was long, sorry. lol