9 REASONS WHY BRAINLESS PEOPLE CHEAT- Article 1

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***An article I found online***

Why do I find it so easy not to cheat?

Maybe I'm not very attractive, so my options are limited. Maybe I'm too jaded to go for the cheating opportunities. Maybe I still have some mental wounds lingering from when my dad temporarily moved out because he had met another woman. Maybe I'm too afraid that I've reached my sin quotient and one more big sin will keep me out of heaven.

Cheating is not a caught in the moment thing if you are really into your significant other, you miss them when you are not with them, you don't look for a way to hurt or deceive them.

I am just now patching up a friendship with someone I was seeing while they had a boyfriend (that may make me a cheater). At different points she told me that she had broken up with her boyfriend, that they were back together, and that he was boring and I was fun. It was total confusion.

I told her she wasn't being fair to herself, me, or him.

Finally, she said, "you just don't understand, there are things you don't know." Thing is she's been cheating on him for a couple of years with different guys, and he keeps taking her back.

So, are cheaters born cheaters, or do certain situations cause people to cheat? Probably a little bit of both. Here are some situations that make people cheat:

1. Bored
I'd say this is the most common reason that people cheat.It's tough to keep that edge throughout a relationship. Things start off grand and then level off and then you both realize that it's still real life. When you meet someone else, that inaugural excitement of a new relationship kicks back in.

2. Dependence
At first glance, cheating seems like independent behavior. It could be interpreted as doing what you want, when you want. But I would argue that cheating is a dependent behavior. A cheater is dependent because they are not strong enough to break up with their significant other in order to get with the new person.

3. Confusion
Sometimes life or a particular situation can get to you. When the perfect storm of confusion is going on in your head, you make mistakes.

4. Because They Let You
If any girl ever cheated on me, I'd break up with her immediately. Forgiving a cheater is putting up with it, and starts a vicious cycle.That person who cheated may lose respect for you and might continue to cheat-because they know they can get away with it, because you'll continue to take them back.

5. Nurturing
If someone is mistreating you, then your first instinct is to get away from him or her. But sometimes it's not that simple-maybe you are raising kids together. If you feel trapped in a bad relationship, it's only natural that you will run to the open arms of a person who treats you well.

6. Revenge
This is quite simple- an eye for an eye. Cheat on them if they cheat on you. If they continuously hurt you or abuse you in some way, you do it to get them back.

7. Confirmation of Attractiveness
Sometimes when you're in a long relationship, or if your significant other is taking you for granted, you begin to wonder if you're still attractive. Perhaps, because you were out on the dating circuit, you felt more attractive when you were single. If you have an affair, you've proven that a new person can be attracted to you.

8. The Thrill
Some people just enjoy the thrill of cheating: running around secretly, risking getting caught, andcreating thrilling moments with a forbidden romance.

9. They Don't Consider It Cheating, Even Though You Might
Relationships have that grey area, usually right before you become exclusive. He thinks date #4 is when you're "together," and you think date #2 is when you're "together." If you haven't talked about exclusivity, someone may think they are well within their rights to see other people, even though the other person in the relationship may not.

I don't understand why people don't break up as soon as they have an urge to cheat. Is it natural to have temptation, or is temptation a sign that the relationship is losing its fire? What reasons would you add to this list, and do you disagree with any? If you've ever cheated, why did you do it? Could you forgive a cheater? If you are single, but seeing a person who is in a committed relationship, does that make you a cheater?
Article written by Rich Santos

***MY ANSWERS TO THESE REASONS***
 

1. Okay so you get bored of your relationship and this is the most common reason why people cheat.  Well, have ever heard of trying to talk to your partner about how you feel and try to work things out. If it doesn't work then all you have to do is break up. Duh!!!
2. Cheaters are just weak asses and they don't even have the guts to break up with their partner. If they really cared about them, then they wouldn't be hurting them this way.
3. So you made a mistake on going out with you partner and you weren't thinking straight when you made the decision. Well hellooo!!! Explain it to them and break up. Idiots!!!
4. I honestly can say I love reason number 4. Who ever said, "If any girl ever cheated on me, I'd break up with her immediately" is a very smart man. Kudos to you my friend. :) According to Rich Santos' article, and I quote: "Forgiving a cheater is putting up with it, and starts a vicious cycle. That person who cheated may lose respect for you and might continue to cheat-because they know they can get away with it, because you'll continue to take them back." Now this is 100% true. But try getting that inside a victim's head. They love their cheater so much that they are willing to forgive and take them back anytime.
5. Wow!!! yeah but if you're getting fucked up by your partner all you gotta do is break up idiot!!! Not cheat on them because you're making things worse if you do.
6. Aaahhh Revenge!!! Horrible just plain horrible. Now why would you do that. Your partner cheats on you and you'll do it too. Your more of an idiot than the cheater. Don't you know that if you do this it will make YOU look so freaking worse then your partner.
7. Umm if you feel that you were attractive when you were single then WTF are you with your partner. Why did you went out with them in the first place anyways.
8. WTF!!! You enjoy the thrill of cheat. You're a fuckin' dumb ass. So you rather hurt your partner just because you love cheating so much. CHEATERS ARE BRAINLESS!!!! Seriously!!

      9. Finally, for this one then you both are pathetics and need to get things straight.

***"I don't understand why people don't break up as soon as they have an urge to cheat. Is it natural to have temptation, or is temptation a sign that the relationship is losing its fire? What reasons would you add to this list, and do you disagree with any? If you've ever cheated, why did you do it? Could you forgive a cheater? If you are single, but seeing a person who is in a committed relationship, does that make you a cheater?"*** I quote from Rich Santos

Awww!!! WELL I'M VERY SORRY RICH. PEOPLE DON'T BREAK UP WHEN THEY HAVE THE URGUE TO CHEAT BECAUSE THEY ARE BRAINLESS PEOPLE. JUST PLAIN AND SIMPLE. TEMPTATION IS A SIGN THAT THE RELATIONSHIP IS LOSING ITS FIRE, SO THEY NEED TO DISCUSS IT WITH THEIR PARTNER. I ACTUALLY DISAGREE WITH ALL THESE REASONS. CHEATING IS COMPLETELY WRONG AND I WOULD NEVER FORGIVE A CHEATER NOT GIVE THEM A SECOND CHANCE. I'M NOT AN IDIOT.