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this post and would like not to let it pass without comment. In the first part of my response I will do my best to explain how Dean’s behavior toward Sam meets a lot of the criteria for intimate partner abuse, because the OP does not seem to grasp the argument we are making. I will assume good faith, though - this is a difficult
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I was glad that Sam was pissed at Dean for "talking him out of" going through boarding up the gates of hell, because that's essentially what happened. Sam was a puddle of goo, and Dean came busting in saying THERE IS NEVER ANYTHING I WOULD PUT IN FRONT OF YOU when in fact we'd seen him do that for a good part of S8. That response of Dean's really angered me, because it did not seem to come from a truly loving place. Screaming at someone who is that vulnerable is showing love? I don't think so. To be honest, except for Dean's speech, I loved the whole last part of the episode. But if only they'd stop putting Sam through the physical wringer every.fucking.episode, that would make me so happy. I think TPTB saw they had something with Sam being helpless in the hospital, so they ring that bell as much as possible.
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Oh, totally. Dean learned his bullshit somewhere. It doesn't mean he cannot help himself or that he's entitled to cause pain because of it (especially not to Sam, since even under the stupid ~cosmic justice~ rubric, John put Sam through quite enough as well). People adapt; sometimes those adaptations are perverse.
Dean came busting in saying THERE IS NEVER ANYTHING I WOULD PUT IN FRONT OF YOU when in fact we'd seen him do that for a good part of S8.
ha, yup. Dean's ~poor bruised fee-fees have been leaving Sam in the dust for a long time.
That response of Dean's really angered me, because it did not seem to come from a truly loving place. Screaming at someone who is that vulnerable is showing love? I don't think so.
Yes, exactly. It takes a pretty special kind of asshole to make "I don't want you to die" be just blatantly cruel, but it was.
if only they'd stop putting Sam through the physical wringer every.fucking.episode, that would make me so happy. I think TPTB saw they had something with Sam being helpless in the hospital, so they ring that bell as much as possible.
I'm torn on this? It's tough to watch, certainly. At the same time, I don't feel like it's entirely pointless, to have this visual emphasis on Sam as being physically vulnerable, as a way to highlight the emotional pounding people spent all of last season getting off on him taking.
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One theory that came up this year was that yes, John was abusive, but that he only abused Dean. And there were TONS of people who bought it! The rationales went from the YED told Dean that John cared more about Sam, so it must A) be true and B) must mean that John never abused Sam. Others stated that John's orders to Dean to protect Sam meant that John would never have abused Sam. The third group were firm in their belief that Dean would have thrown himself in front of Sam to protect him from John, because Dean was the perfect protector and martyr who loves his Sammy more than life and who would take blows for him or sacrifice food and bravely and willingly starve himself to save Sam one moments pain. When I noted that John told Dean to kill Sam basically if he got out of line, there was dead silence. It seems that Dean going around for half a season thinking that, yeah, he would consider killing Sam means Dean wasn't all that protective of Sam. Also Spaghetios are equivalent to no food whatsoever so Dean not getting the last of the Lucky Charms was the same as giving his life for Sam. This theory was bolstered by Dean stealing food because "Sam was hungry" and then gave up his chance to have a loving normal life with the guy who ran the boy's home. Personally I think John the controlling and possessive would not have permitted Dean to stay at the home and the guy didn't have a leg to stand on to legally keep Dean, but Dean gave it all up for Sam, the ungrateful.
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AZAZEL = ONLY RELIABLE NARRATOR VOICE OF TRUTH OBVS. lol.
Like. Just because Dean rationalizes John's abuse of Sam - what was it, back in Bugs? when Sam pointed out John was a jackass to him and Dean was like "no, he had to put you in line!" like, he was only shitty to you because you DESERVED it! - doesn't mean WE have to accept it.
Dean was the perfect protector and martyr who loves his Sammy more than life and who would take blows for him or sacrifice food and bravely and willingly starve himself to save Sam one moments pain
Yeah, really wish people would acknowledge the blatantly obvious, that "Dean did everything he could reasonably be expected to do" =/= "everything Sam could reasonably need to develop as a person." Nobody would let a school-age child be the sole caretaker for a puppy, because they just can't handle that, even if they are very good kids who do their best.
When I noted that John told Dean to kill Sam basically if he got out of line, there was dead silence. It seems that Dean going around for half a season thinking that, yeah, he would consider killing Sam means Dean wasn't all that protective of Sam.
Filicidal contract killings being one of those easily-forgettable details, it's understandable. *rolls eyes*
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