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Wow. OK. So I'm feeling much better all in all since I last talked to you.
Well, OK, long story short, on Friday Scott went with that girl we were friends with and I just sort of walked around in no mood to do anything. I got to thinking about the girl Scott and I had our problem over and figured I needed to set things right with her - even if we weren't together we should at least understand eachother. We ate dinner and talked, and apparently while I was in Wuhan Scott called her over to make out more. I guess I'm not mad about it, but it caused a big fight between the two of us. When it came down to it he said he didn't regret what he did either time; he regretted that my feelings were hurt but he didn't regret his actions. He says its really the first mistakes he's made in his life and he is going to make some. He's sorry they're at my expense. I dunno.
The heart of the matter came out. She had apparently been saying very different things to the both of us. To me I would ask what she was feeling, tell her I liked her, etc. and she would say "It's better not to think about it." To Scott that night she said "he says he only wants me as a friend, but still he'll do these things with me. I hate him and i don't want to be with him." Scott, who didn't know what I was really feeling, took her at her word. If I was just using her physically, it's not so bad if he has some emotional connection with her, or something. Regardless, he knew I was uncomfortable and because of that shouldn't have done it, but he's not at as much fault as he would have been had she not been lying to him(/me?). The second time he has no excuse for, but I'm not really mad about it because I certainly didn't want anything with her by that point. So, yeah, he made a mistake. The thing that pissed me off most was that he lied to me. So we had a big fight and wound up talking until 5AM. After that we seem to be much closer to where we were before (common enemy rather than one person just fucking the other over, maybe?).
Saturday we woke up relatively early, I went to lunch with a friend and Scott went to Erhu lessons. We met back up and started buying supplies and the like for our party. The girl I mentioned earlier (whose English name is Nono, which I think is kickass, BTW) has a friend who works at a bar, and she called him to sell us discount booze. He sent a surrogate to sell us the vodka we wanted for $10.5 but dude was a moron and brought the wrong bottle. It was a bottle of Black Label, selling in Yibin for around $30. Nono was in the process of yelling at him to take it back because it wasn't the ri- . . . when we told her to shut the goddamn Hell UP and we'll buy that for $10.5. HOLY CRAP. AWESOME. Saturday day was just a kick-ass day. The weather was beautiful for the first time in a while, Scott and I were on better terms then before, everything was going great.
7:30 rolls around (earliest goddamn party ever! Thanks, China!) and people start showing up. at first people are crowded around the food we bought from the restaurant across the street (which is totally great and hell of cheap). Later it just settled into the party groove, and although China does not have house parties like this, people just seemed to know what to do. It was fricking Excellent. I had an amazing time. We have two bottles of expensive rice wine in our apartment that the school gave us. We had thought that FINALLY someone would drink them, as neither Scott nor I drink that shit by choice. But, as it turns out, everyone wanted to try the different western alcohols we had. We killed almost the whole bottle of black label, the tequila, some vodka, some gin, some rum, and by the end of the night, tons of Chinese girls who at first were all like "I don't drink" were getting drunk off Bailey's and other things (two girls went from "I don't drink" to "Let's take a shot of tequila" by the end!). It was an amazing success. Bunches went home at 10, but around 10 people stayed and we partied until 3:30, and then everyone crashed at various places in the house. Me in a chair, three on the couches, four in my bed, Scott alone in his bed cos he puked (he was drinking tequila from the bottle by the end). We woke up early, and people watched Kill Bill, and eventually disbanded. We left our apartment Ruined and went to buy me a Guzheng (kind of like the Japanese instrument koto) [Thanks Gram!]. It's kickin' and I got a ridiculous discount because my friend called the music teacher form the university to come ask the store to give me a huge discount. I got a $300 Guzheng for about $135 with a stand, a case and a book of music. I have my first lesson tomorrow. I'll put up pictures soon!
Today being Thanksgiving, we were given the day off. But we have no oven, so we're going to try and sometime this weekend ghetto fix as much thanksgiving food as possible. Instead, today we went to lunch with our school who on the spur of the moment organized a huge celebration for our holiday, including the goddamn minister of education for all of Sichuan province! What the Hell! But it was so touching and thoughtful - they tried to order food containing the things we normally eat on Thanksgiving, and as close to Thanksgiving food as they could. It was really very touching that they worked so hard for us. Also, they got us completely trashed (as has happened every time we've gone out with them. Way to go, Chinese culture) at 1:00 PM. ha ha ha. I love China.
Let me leave you with a quote from Scott last night: "America has its head way up its ass about [this kind of thing], and china wants to, too. You spend all day pretending you're a modern country, but at night it's just, like, 'fuck it'."
Good (better) to be me
Well, OK, long story short, on Friday Scott went with that girl we were friends with and I just sort of walked around in no mood to do anything. I got to thinking about the girl Scott and I had our problem over and figured I needed to set things right with her - even if we weren't together we should at least understand eachother. We ate dinner and talked, and apparently while I was in Wuhan Scott called her over to make out more. I guess I'm not mad about it, but it caused a big fight between the two of us. When it came down to it he said he didn't regret what he did either time; he regretted that my feelings were hurt but he didn't regret his actions. He says its really the first mistakes he's made in his life and he is going to make some. He's sorry they're at my expense. I dunno.
The heart of the matter came out. She had apparently been saying very different things to the both of us. To me I would ask what she was feeling, tell her I liked her, etc. and she would say "It's better not to think about it." To Scott that night she said "he says he only wants me as a friend, but still he'll do these things with me. I hate him and i don't want to be with him." Scott, who didn't know what I was really feeling, took her at her word. If I was just using her physically, it's not so bad if he has some emotional connection with her, or something. Regardless, he knew I was uncomfortable and because of that shouldn't have done it, but he's not at as much fault as he would have been had she not been lying to him(/me?). The second time he has no excuse for, but I'm not really mad about it because I certainly didn't want anything with her by that point. So, yeah, he made a mistake. The thing that pissed me off most was that he lied to me. So we had a big fight and wound up talking until 5AM. After that we seem to be much closer to where we were before (common enemy rather than one person just fucking the other over, maybe?).
Saturday we woke up relatively early, I went to lunch with a friend and Scott went to Erhu lessons. We met back up and started buying supplies and the like for our party. The girl I mentioned earlier (whose English name is Nono, which I think is kickass, BTW) has a friend who works at a bar, and she called him to sell us discount booze. He sent a surrogate to sell us the vodka we wanted for $10.5 but dude was a moron and brought the wrong bottle. It was a bottle of Black Label, selling in Yibin for around $30. Nono was in the process of yelling at him to take it back because it wasn't the ri- . . . when we told her to shut the goddamn Hell UP and we'll buy that for $10.5. HOLY CRAP. AWESOME. Saturday day was just a kick-ass day. The weather was beautiful for the first time in a while, Scott and I were on better terms then before, everything was going great.
7:30 rolls around (earliest goddamn party ever! Thanks, China!) and people start showing up. at first people are crowded around the food we bought from the restaurant across the street (which is totally great and hell of cheap). Later it just settled into the party groove, and although China does not have house parties like this, people just seemed to know what to do. It was fricking Excellent. I had an amazing time. We have two bottles of expensive rice wine in our apartment that the school gave us. We had thought that FINALLY someone would drink them, as neither Scott nor I drink that shit by choice. But, as it turns out, everyone wanted to try the different western alcohols we had. We killed almost the whole bottle of black label, the tequila, some vodka, some gin, some rum, and by the end of the night, tons of Chinese girls who at first were all like "I don't drink" were getting drunk off Bailey's and other things (two girls went from "I don't drink" to "Let's take a shot of tequila" by the end!). It was an amazing success. Bunches went home at 10, but around 10 people stayed and we partied until 3:30, and then everyone crashed at various places in the house. Me in a chair, three on the couches, four in my bed, Scott alone in his bed cos he puked (he was drinking tequila from the bottle by the end). We woke up early, and people watched Kill Bill, and eventually disbanded. We left our apartment Ruined and went to buy me a Guzheng (kind of like the Japanese instrument koto) [Thanks Gram!]. It's kickin' and I got a ridiculous discount because my friend called the music teacher form the university to come ask the store to give me a huge discount. I got a $300 Guzheng for about $135 with a stand, a case and a book of music. I have my first lesson tomorrow. I'll put up pictures soon!
Today being Thanksgiving, we were given the day off. But we have no oven, so we're going to try and sometime this weekend ghetto fix as much thanksgiving food as possible. Instead, today we went to lunch with our school who on the spur of the moment organized a huge celebration for our holiday, including the goddamn minister of education for all of Sichuan province! What the Hell! But it was so touching and thoughtful - they tried to order food containing the things we normally eat on Thanksgiving, and as close to Thanksgiving food as they could. It was really very touching that they worked so hard for us. Also, they got us completely trashed (as has happened every time we've gone out with them. Way to go, Chinese culture) at 1:00 PM. ha ha ha. I love China.
Let me leave you with a quote from Scott last night: "America has its head way up its ass about [this kind of thing], and china wants to, too. You spend all day pretending you're a modern country, but at night it's just, like, 'fuck it'."
Good (better) to be me