no recent thoughts besides....
Well, there was this thought... well, i just had another... and they are blame, and shame.
So alot of people, i noticed, play the "blame game." It doesn't nessesarily mean they blame other people for their problems, (but most, in my limited experience, do) but they blame something or someone. God, Life, Luck, Fate, Other people, The Government, Jews, Themselves, War, Ignorance... so on and so forth.
I guess it just seems like pointless finger pointing (hahaha... errr... sorry, not quite that funny). I mean, to tell the truth, what does it matter where the blame lies, if everyone can learn from what is happening? It seems like lieing blame is actually an excuse for not learning from what is happening in the moment. (now, i tell you what, this sounds alot like blaming someone, but i'm not really sure)
So, being the case, i think it might just be more productive to say "Hey, the granola is burt! Well, there must be something to learn here, since i'm reacting to it, and i can clean it out, make some more, or not, its life!" Right? Am i right here? I can't say that i'm not to blame here (as i :think: everyone might be), but i don't think blaming people is the way to go about it.
And as for the other, Shame. I tell you what, it just doesn't seem like anything should be shameful, unless a person is afraid of what other people will think or do... Which means that if I felt shameful, then i was not confident, or not trusting that what i was doing was right, or acceptable. Which means i have issues with what i am doing, not other people. If i was afraid to tell people that i was gay (which, i'm not, either gay or afraid, this is hypothetical) then i would have an issue with being gay myself, not other people. Sure other people might have issues with it, but it is not MY issue to have issues because they have issues, those are their issues, and if i have issues, then i need to look at why and sort them!
Thats about it for today folks.
-Cole
So alot of people, i noticed, play the "blame game." It doesn't nessesarily mean they blame other people for their problems, (but most, in my limited experience, do) but they blame something or someone. God, Life, Luck, Fate, Other people, The Government, Jews, Themselves, War, Ignorance... so on and so forth.
I guess it just seems like pointless finger pointing (hahaha... errr... sorry, not quite that funny). I mean, to tell the truth, what does it matter where the blame lies, if everyone can learn from what is happening? It seems like lieing blame is actually an excuse for not learning from what is happening in the moment. (now, i tell you what, this sounds alot like blaming someone, but i'm not really sure)
So, being the case, i think it might just be more productive to say "Hey, the granola is burt! Well, there must be something to learn here, since i'm reacting to it, and i can clean it out, make some more, or not, its life!" Right? Am i right here? I can't say that i'm not to blame here (as i :think: everyone might be), but i don't think blaming people is the way to go about it.
And as for the other, Shame. I tell you what, it just doesn't seem like anything should be shameful, unless a person is afraid of what other people will think or do... Which means that if I felt shameful, then i was not confident, or not trusting that what i was doing was right, or acceptable. Which means i have issues with what i am doing, not other people. If i was afraid to tell people that i was gay (which, i'm not, either gay or afraid, this is hypothetical) then i would have an issue with being gay myself, not other people. Sure other people might have issues with it, but it is not MY issue to have issues because they have issues, those are their issues, and if i have issues, then i need to look at why and sort them!
Thats about it for today folks.
-Cole