Request for resources: simple discipline
Thanks for everyone's helpful musing on the last post. V is definitely preferring to lump all his sleep at one end of the day at the moment: yesterday he was sleeping (with brief wakings to feed) from 4pm to 7am. Not a napper, at least, not right now. If he's going to be unconscious he wants to do it good and proper.
Moving on to a longer term, and very elementary, thing: I know basically nothing about, for want of a better phrase, his moral development. That is, at what age we should start expecting him to begin to understand things like "don't hit" and so on and what techniques we can use to help him learn? This isn't something we can turn to the grandparents for, because neither of us are thrilled with our childhood experiences with discipline and don't want to repeat some of it. (Also, in my case, my earliest memories overlap with multiple emotional, financial and medical crises in my family spanning some years, so I don't have a model of what a very stable family looks like for children that age.)
Since people here seem broadly compatible with my parenting intentions: what are your favourite resources on the subject of what children are capable of understanding when, and on establishing and maintaining good behaviour and relationships with them? Books, websites, other forums and so on all welcome as I feel fairly behind the eight ball on this one.
Moving on to a longer term, and very elementary, thing: I know basically nothing about, for want of a better phrase, his moral development. That is, at what age we should start expecting him to begin to understand things like "don't hit" and so on and what techniques we can use to help him learn? This isn't something we can turn to the grandparents for, because neither of us are thrilled with our childhood experiences with discipline and don't want to repeat some of it. (Also, in my case, my earliest memories overlap with multiple emotional, financial and medical crises in my family spanning some years, so I don't have a model of what a very stable family looks like for children that age.)
Since people here seem broadly compatible with my parenting intentions: what are your favourite resources on the subject of what children are capable of understanding when, and on establishing and maintaining good behaviour and relationships with them? Books, websites, other forums and so on all welcome as I feel fairly behind the eight ball on this one.