Glad I don't have that kind of moneyiceprincess1010April 1 2003, 09:17:23 UTC
I share with you, the thought that money is nothing when you can have someone laying with you in bed and children laughing and smiling at you. The problem with those other 60 people who were so "careful" not to drop any food on the tile or not touch anything is that they are just as plastic as she is. How many of those people, after she dies, will be there to sign their names along the dotted line? How many of those people will be disappointed that they didn't get "more of their share?" How many of those people will bitch and complain that the brother or sister or other family member got more than they did? And then ask yourself, how many of those people will ACTUALLY, TRULY, care that she died? How many will grieve the loss after they get the check to cash? Sure she might get a lot of people at her eulogy who will say she was a great person, a caring soul, a person that could make a crowd smile. But how many of those people REALLY mean it and aren't just being nice? When you pass on, there might not be 200 people, there might not be a fancy buffet afterwards, there might not be some fancy procession. But you can live and die with the dignity that after you are gone you have created a legacy. Although your children are not "perfect" that does not mean they aren't a precious life. That they aren't human being, living breathing, caring, loving, children that will grow into beautiful people. Much more beautiful than some cow who counts her precious money before she goes to sleep. I wish you the best. I wish you the peace of mind that should be yours. I hope you can see the strong, beautiful, wonderful person you are. Others may see it as a burden to take care of "special" children but I hope you see it as a gift to make you stronger, more caring, patient, and the luckiest woman in the world to have been sent such a task as being the mother of children who will always love you. I don't personally have children but I have worked with Autistic children since I was in 4th grade. They are wonderful people. To the commoner they may seem strange and "abnormal." But to someone who has a heart as big as yours and mine, we see them as the the people they are. They are so strong and have a zest for life that money can never buy. The woman you were talking about will never have that zest for life or the fulfillment of a meaningful existence. Hugs to you. And a GREAT BIG pat on the back for being incredible and such a wonderful woman.
Re: Glad I don't have that kind of moneyplacid_chaosApril 3 2003, 17:33:56 UTC
Thank you! I applaud you as well. I have been very lucky with the educators that my SPED kids have had thus far. We live in a small town--because we don't have bi-lingual education in our budget, they can spend the extra money on the SPED. Therefore, they hire teachers that have the correct education and keep sending them to new classes as well.
I just wish that, they would do the same thing with those in charge of the REST of the schools. I truly believe that, this is from ignorance rather than malice. I fall under the full 'book' criteria on who are more likely to abuse. Out of 5 items on the checklist, I stereotype 3 of them. It is a shame that, they go by what is written in a state booklet instead of getting to know the parent as an individual.
I just want this over soon...however, it will continue for a long time. I have talked to so many parents and foster parents of special kids--many have had DSS show up at their door many times. What others don't understand as 'our daily routine' may appear as abuse or neglect.
A reflection of this would be when, EI and IEI were trying to get Taylor to overcome certain fears. One was our yard swing. Each day, they would take her on the swing for 3 minute intervals (increasing daily) and I would do the same each night. She sounded as though we were slamming her against the fence! Neighbor's were staring, but thankfully they all know she is autistic and asked questions.
SOmetimes, it just takes a question to get an informed answer. I sure beats the hell out of assumtions from a stereotyped rule book!
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I just wish that, they would do the same thing with those in charge of the REST of the schools. I truly believe that, this is from ignorance rather than malice. I fall under the full 'book' criteria on who are more likely to abuse. Out of 5 items on the checklist, I stereotype 3 of them. It is a shame that, they go by what is written in a state booklet instead of getting to know the parent as an individual.
I just want this over soon...however, it will continue for a long time. I have talked to so many parents and foster parents of special kids--many have had DSS show up at their door many times. What others don't understand as 'our daily routine' may appear as abuse or neglect.
A reflection of this would be when, EI and IEI were trying to get Taylor to overcome certain fears. One was our yard swing. Each day, they would take her on the swing for 3 minute intervals (increasing daily) and I would do the same each night. She sounded as though we were slamming her against the fence! Neighbor's were staring, but thankfully they all know she is autistic and asked questions.
SOmetimes, it just takes a question to get an informed answer. I sure beats the hell out of assumtions from a stereotyped rule book!
ARGH!
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