that's weird he would suggest it and then say he doesn't want it. good call, Taylor. well, I can speak for myself and a lot of my friends in saying that I wouldn't sleep in the same bed (probably not even in the same house, for various reasons) as the person I liked/was dating/was engaged to/etc. I don't know, it's just too much temptation. even if both of you have already decided that you're going to be abstinent until you're married, there is always a chance that you will lose your self control and make a mistake that you could regret for a long time. I know that exact thing happened to a good friend of mine and every day she wishes she could take it back. you just have to set boundaries or sometimes you might not be able to contain yourself. (I'm not saying YOU, I'm saying in general.) oh dear, I have a lot to say on this subject. *lol* I also have to admit that it's a lot easier to say I will do all these things, and I've never really been tempted to do them, never really had a boyfriend or anything. but as far as what I see myself doing, I'm staying abstinent until I'm married, and that means little contact with people of the opposite sex that I like.. does that make sense? there's just something about sharing a space that small with someone you care about, it's very intimate and I think it should be reserved for marriage. but I'm not going to tell you that you can't do it. that is your decision. (and your parents might have something to say about it, lol.)
I don't think you have to live with someone to find out who they really are. of course there are people that can't put up with certain things, that they didn't know about until they married that person. but those are generally just small issues. the BIG things are the ones you find out by getting to know the person normally, interacting with them socially, being around them and their family, being their friend, being in a relationship with them, etc. I just don't think it's essential to live with them before you're married. but again, that's my view, and it's definitely not one a lot of people share these days.
Yeah my parents have their opinions. But my mom also said that she doesn't want me to date until I'm 30...so you know. So I don't always agree with my parents' point of views. They have their opinions, and that's cool, but personally I don't think they should run my lives when I'm almost 20. It's kind of ridiculous. But, I DO think that my dad has say because he is the one paying for my living arrangements. So I must respect his decisions..and I do...I'm just mad he changed his mind. And that I have no friends. lol
I can't see you doing any of those things either, like living with someone or anything before you're married. And that's totally cool. I agree, it is much more intimiate when you live with someone and there's a lot of temptation.
One of my best examples of living with someone and finding out who they really are is Janelle and Lisa. They were like best friends last year and last summer...spent tons of time with each other, with their families, went on trips together, etc. etc. and now they live with each other. Janelle has seen the true Lisa now and doesn't want to live with her next year. She has found out that Lisa only cares about herself and not about Janelle really at all. And she didn't see it until she lived with her. But, then again, people who didn't live together until they got married have worked out for years, so who am I to talk. You do get to know someone the best by interacting with them, etc...but living with someone is a whole different world. I see a big deal in living with someone before you're married, but I also don't see the big deal. I AM a moderate, lol. I'm pretty moderate about almost every issue because I usually can see and agree on some level with both sides.
I don't think you have to live with someone to find out who they really are. of course there are people that can't put up with certain things, that they didn't know about until they married that person. but those are generally just small issues. the BIG things are the ones you find out by getting to know the person normally, interacting with them socially, being around them and their family, being their friend, being in a relationship with them, etc. I just don't think it's essential to live with them before you're married. but again, that's my view, and it's definitely not one a lot of people share these days.
alright. enough rant for one comment.
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I can't see you doing any of those things either, like living with someone or anything before you're married. And that's totally cool. I agree, it is much more intimiate when you live with someone and there's a lot of temptation.
One of my best examples of living with someone and finding out who they really are is Janelle and Lisa. They were like best friends last year and last summer...spent tons of time with each other, with their families, went on trips together, etc. etc. and now they live with each other. Janelle has seen the true Lisa now and doesn't want to live with her next year. She has found out that Lisa only cares about herself and not about Janelle really at all. And she didn't see it until she lived with her.
But, then again, people who didn't live together until they got married have worked out for years, so who am I to talk. You do get to know someone the best by interacting with them, etc...but living with someone is a whole different world. I see a big deal in living with someone before you're married, but I also don't see the big deal. I AM a moderate, lol. I'm pretty moderate about almost every issue because I usually can see and agree on some level with both sides.
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