the one with a rant
I had chai tea with S today.
S: So L (boyfriend) doesn't want me to go to the doctor about my depression.
Me: And that's a good thing?
S: Yeah. He thinks we should work on fixing it together.
Me: But... but it might be slightly related to him, but isn't it your problem to fix how you see fit?
S: Yes but it's good to have someone to talk it over with.
Me: But it's your body. It shouldn't be his decision for you to not get medical advice.
S: *shrugs* We'll see how it goes.
Right. Firstly, I don't particularly believe that you need to take drugs to get rid of depression. I believe for some people they help, and some people they don't. I however do not believe that you should not talk to a doctor about your mental health, because they can get you in touch with psycologists or give you some ideas of other ways to help keep the depression at bay (if possible). I can't say I think S is as depressed as I have been, but I'm not a psycologist so that's just my uneducated opinion. And yes, for some people talking to friends and partners can help. She's been like this before being in a relationship with L though. FOR YEARS PRIOR. I think it is entirely naive to believe that being with someone can "fix" you. Especially when L is entirely bollocks at dealing with emotions and well, his own depression. Apparently he just snaps at her if she gets sad.
Maybe I'm just too entirely judgemental about boys telling girls that they should or shouldn't do something, and then the girls taking up what they've said. Actually, there's no maybe about that. I know I am. It frustrates me though, that people can be so stupid. Perhaps it is not stupid to them though, but I would take it as a massive insult if Bob told me he didn't think I should seek medical advice. If I want to seek medical advice for whatever problem, I'm going to, and sod whoever thinks I shouldn't. You can be independant but be in a relationship. You really can.
S: So L (boyfriend) doesn't want me to go to the doctor about my depression.
Me: And that's a good thing?
S: Yeah. He thinks we should work on fixing it together.
Me: But... but it might be slightly related to him, but isn't it your problem to fix how you see fit?
S: Yes but it's good to have someone to talk it over with.
Me: But it's your body. It shouldn't be his decision for you to not get medical advice.
S: *shrugs* We'll see how it goes.
Right. Firstly, I don't particularly believe that you need to take drugs to get rid of depression. I believe for some people they help, and some people they don't. I however do not believe that you should not talk to a doctor about your mental health, because they can get you in touch with psycologists or give you some ideas of other ways to help keep the depression at bay (if possible). I can't say I think S is as depressed as I have been, but I'm not a psycologist so that's just my uneducated opinion. And yes, for some people talking to friends and partners can help. She's been like this before being in a relationship with L though. FOR YEARS PRIOR. I think it is entirely naive to believe that being with someone can "fix" you. Especially when L is entirely bollocks at dealing with emotions and well, his own depression. Apparently he just snaps at her if she gets sad.
Maybe I'm just too entirely judgemental about boys telling girls that they should or shouldn't do something, and then the girls taking up what they've said. Actually, there's no maybe about that. I know I am. It frustrates me though, that people can be so stupid. Perhaps it is not stupid to them though, but I would take it as a massive insult if Bob told me he didn't think I should seek medical advice. If I want to seek medical advice for whatever problem, I'm going to, and sod whoever thinks I shouldn't. You can be independant but be in a relationship. You really can.