Single Standard
As a single person, i am guilty of ranting and wallowing about my singlehood. I guess it's because that's the only thing i can do about it. Rant. Wallow. Of course i could parade myself around, in the hopes that i could attract someone with my "towering height", "flawless complexion" and my adonis-like features. But then i realize, i don't have a "towering height", a "flawless complexion, nor adonis-like features". So, i go back to wallowing.
But kidding aside, i wonder "why am i single?" To be honest, and i mean gut-wrenching honest, it's because my standards are too high. I guess it's my way of compensating. What i lack in height, i make up for in standards. I like my guy to be kind, intelligent, funny, handsome, masculine, affectionate, sporty and trim. Yup, that makes me and the rest of the female and the not-so-female population. But what can i say, i believe that you shouldn't settle for less, not when you can have the best. I just don't want to sell myself short- -'cause God knows i have enough of that - -and i think i deserve someone who measures up to my expectations.
And then it hit me...maybe that's the reason a lot of people are single today, they don't want to settle; or settle down, whatever comes first. We've become so infatuated with the ideal scenario of love. (Thanks to the slew of romantic comedies which I think should be called romantic-comedy fantasies for they hardly happen that way in real life - -with the exception of "The Little Black Book".)We are all closeted hopeless romantics. And anything less than a "Puccini moment" is not worth our time. If we don't bump into and meet each other while going for the same pair of gloves in a department store, if we both aren't university professors looking for romantic love, or if i'm not a hooker and him a rich business mogul - -then it's not gonna work.
I guess being romantic and idealistic is not necessarily bad. A bit unrealistic perhaps, but not bad. It's ok to have standards. It's ok to think that you deserve better. It's ok to wait a little bit longer, if that person is worth it. It's ok. But the thing i've realized, is that "it's funny how we set all these qualifications for that person we want to love, when in reality, that person will always be the exception." And when he shatters all your expectations, and turns your world upside-down, then it will hit you that "it" finally hit you. But until that moment comes, it's back to dreamland for us hopeless romantics.
But kidding aside, i wonder "why am i single?" To be honest, and i mean gut-wrenching honest, it's because my standards are too high. I guess it's my way of compensating. What i lack in height, i make up for in standards. I like my guy to be kind, intelligent, funny, handsome, masculine, affectionate, sporty and trim. Yup, that makes me and the rest of the female and the not-so-female population. But what can i say, i believe that you shouldn't settle for less, not when you can have the best. I just don't want to sell myself short- -'cause God knows i have enough of that - -and i think i deserve someone who measures up to my expectations.
And then it hit me...maybe that's the reason a lot of people are single today, they don't want to settle; or settle down, whatever comes first. We've become so infatuated with the ideal scenario of love. (Thanks to the slew of romantic comedies which I think should be called romantic-comedy fantasies for they hardly happen that way in real life - -with the exception of "The Little Black Book".)We are all closeted hopeless romantics. And anything less than a "Puccini moment" is not worth our time. If we don't bump into and meet each other while going for the same pair of gloves in a department store, if we both aren't university professors looking for romantic love, or if i'm not a hooker and him a rich business mogul - -then it's not gonna work.
I guess being romantic and idealistic is not necessarily bad. A bit unrealistic perhaps, but not bad. It's ok to have standards. It's ok to think that you deserve better. It's ok to wait a little bit longer, if that person is worth it. It's ok. But the thing i've realized, is that "it's funny how we set all these qualifications for that person we want to love, when in reality, that person will always be the exception." And when he shatters all your expectations, and turns your world upside-down, then it will hit you that "it" finally hit you. But until that moment comes, it's back to dreamland for us hopeless romantics.