But just because we get the right to want or expect something, does it entitle us to actually achieving said things?
The post was a sum total of a tantrum and a self pity party. I'm tired of walking on eggshells around the two of closest people in my life - my husband and my best friend. I was raised with the notion that you CANNOT change a person. You can't expect them to have the same needs and wants that you have.
So I guess it means I'm not necessarily selfish in my needs/wants. But I do perhaps need to find ways to achieve these things without involving these two people. If it means leaving my husband at home or making new friends, as much as that hurts me, I have to be able to look beyond them. And I have to do that without feeling guilty, which will be the hard part. Because they cannot understand why I don't feel content if they do.
And I do express them. I ask hubby to come to the movies with the daughter and I and I get "Why pay to go to a movie that I don't want to see?" Do I force the issue make him go out of guilt and then we're both miserable watching Tales of Desperaux? I do invite my friend (actually three of my friends) out on girls night many times over the last year. And repeatedly I've been put on the back burner and asked for rain-checks that no one seems to feel the need to redeem.
I feel like I've been put into a cage, and the only way to break out might hurt other people feelings, and possibly damaging one or both relationships. I don't know to achieve my needs without doing just that.
The post was a sum total of a tantrum and a self pity party. I'm tired of walking on eggshells around the two of closest people in my life - my husband and my best friend. I was raised with the notion that you CANNOT change a person. You can't expect them to have the same needs and wants that you have.
So I guess it means I'm not necessarily selfish in my needs/wants. But I do perhaps need to find ways to achieve these things without involving these two people. If it means leaving my husband at home or making new friends, as much as that hurts me, I have to be able to look beyond them. And I have to do that without feeling guilty, which will be the hard part. Because they cannot understand why I don't feel content if they do.
And I do express them. I ask hubby to come to the movies with the daughter and I and I get "Why pay to go to a movie that I don't want to see?" Do I force the issue make him go out of guilt and then we're both miserable watching Tales of Desperaux? I do invite my friend (actually three of my friends) out on girls night many times over the last year. And repeatedly I've been put on the back burner and asked for rain-checks that no one seems to feel the need to redeem.
I feel like I've been put into a cage, and the only way to break out might hurt other people feelings, and possibly damaging one or both relationships. I don't know to achieve my needs without doing just that.
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