A Suit and Tie Type Thing, GG, PG, Chapter 3

[piratelf]

Title: A Suit and Tie Type Thing, Chapter 3
Author: Piratelf
Rating: PG
Fandom: Gilmore Girls
Genre: Gen, Het, Narco, JavaJunkie
Disclaimer: I do not own the Gilmore Girls Characters. No money will be made from this work. I'm really not worth suing, honestly.
Beta: Nadnewraid
Xposted to: deanfest_2007, gg_fic, narcoleptics
Author's Notes: Nothing special for this chapter,

Comments

Ultimately, it's Lorelai's fault

[anonymous]

Now, I'm not saying that Rory doesn't have to be responsible for her actions, because she sure as Hell does, but the root of the problem is that Lorelai, in this regard, at least, just didn't bring Rory up properly.

You see, I believe that Lorelai suffers from a specific form of mental retardation, a developmental disorder known as Arrested Development (the psychological equivalent of the biological disorder Neoteny, perhaps you've heard of it).

For whatever reason, Lorelai's mind stopped developing during adolescence (hence her frequently petulant and immature behavior even thought she's, what, 35 by the end of season 7?). She never gained the maturity needed to deal with conflict in a healthy way, hence her tendency to just run away and wait for the problem to resolve itself.

Naturally, Rory picked up this habit from, hence her short-comings in the confrontation department. Although, to her credit, Rory did get a little better about it as she matured (even though her relationship with Logan was a huge step backwards).

Development disorders like this are often genetic, and since I've observed nothing of this kind in Richard or Emily, it's possible that it, like the GGs quirkiness, is a result of the inbreeding on Richard's side of the family.

Re: Ultimately, it's Lorelai's fault

[piratelf]

Development disorders like this are often genetic, and since I've observed nothing of this kind in Richard or Emily, it's possible that it, like the GGs quirkiness, is a result of the inbreeding on Richard's side of the family.

Yes! I love that idea!

I totally agree that Lorelai suffers from arrested development. And that because she felt her running away from her parents' house at sixteen worked for her, she continually used it as a coping mechanism. (poor Max) And she never learned to relate to other people as a full adult. Many of her social skills are still that of a teenager. He relationship with Luke is the sort that can be observed in any high school anywhere in America. And her relationship wither her parents varies from that of a disgruntled ten year old, (Mean Mommy and Daddy, just hate me and want me to be miserable and turn everyone against me!) to a haughty teen (Poor parents, so pitiful with their petty problems and concerns, too bad they don't know anything about life and the real world like I do). And that is the root of Rory's problems in dealing with people and problem-solving.

That said, I actually do like the character of Lorelai even more than that of Rory, though I do like them both. Not that you could tell by anything I've written! *LOL*

Re: Ultimately, it's Lorelai's fault

[anonymous]

She would definitely benefit from a nice, long vist to a psychiatrist's office.

Re: Ultimately, it's Lorelai's fault

[2wingo]

I finally got around to getting an account.

Even though Lorelai's relationship with her parents leaves a lot to be desired, certain spots suggest that ultimately, she loves them (her reaction during Richard's heart attack, the way she vehemently attacked Digger for making Emily cancel her party, and hers and Emily's little moments during "Rory's Dance").

She just can't relate to them on their terms, nor they on hers, and with neither willing to compromise, so it shall always be.

Re: Ultimately, it's Lorelai's fault

[piratelf]

I finally got around to getting an account.

About time!

I completely agree that in the end Lorelai loves her parents and Richard and Emily love her.

She just can't relate to them on their terms, nor they on hers, and with neither willing to compromise, so it shall always be.

Can't say it better than that!

Regarding Rory's supposed lack of Empathy

[2wingo]

While I agree that she was short-changed in that department, I'd stop short of saying that she was completely devoid of it (I don't know if that's what you've been saying, but that's how it comes across), even when she was at her worst. After all, remember her little speech in Season 1, Episode 21:

"Sometimes you have something you need to say but you can’t because the words won’t come out or you get scared or feel stupid. So, if you could write a song and sing it, then you could say what you need to say. And it would be beautiful. And people would listen. And you wouldn't make a complete idiot out of yourself, but all of us can't be songwriters, so some of us will never be able to say what we’re thinking or what we want other people to know that we’re thinking, so we’ll never get the chance to make things right again. Ever."

Re: Regarding Rory's supposed lack of Empathy

[piratelf]

In that speech though she's just describing her own situation, she's not actually talking about anyone else. So I don't know that it counts as empathy.

I should clarify that Rory has plenty of sympathy for other people and their situations and problems, and I can't say she has no empathy for anyone in any situation whatsoever, but she certainly never has any empathy for Dean when she is treating him badly. She never seems to stop and think how he feels. And she displays the same sort of lack of empathy with Lane. The storyline when Lane's parents are sending her to Korea and won't tell her when she's coming back is the epitome of this to me.

Re: Ultimately, it's Lorelai's fault

[2wingo]

Now that I've seen "Scene in a Mall," I realize that it may not be entirely from Richard's side of the family. the way Emily acts often (not sometimes, OFTEN) borders on deranged. It's pretty safe to say that Lorelai got crazy genes from both sides of the family.

Re: Ultimately, it's Lorelai's fault

[piratelf]

I'd go along with that too. Where the hell were Emily's parents? The one sister that we hear about went to live in France, and apparently Emily hasn't seen her in quite a while.

What are they hiding????

Re: Ultimately, it's Lorelai's fault

[2wingo]

Maybe they're distant relatives of Charles Manson?

Or maybe . . .

[2wingo]

They're members of that weird religious sect in the JCVD movie "The Order," and they're hiding this fact until they're ready to conquer the world!