To all the women in my life....PLEASE READ!!!
*Personal side note: I posted this as a bulletin, but I felt that it was so good, because I m that "nice guy", that I would post it up here*
I READ THIS OFF SOMEONE'S BLOG AND I THOUGHT IT WAS INTERESTING TO KNOW "THE NICE GUY" THOUGHTS FOR ONCE. JUST CURIOUS TO SEE WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK OF THIS BLOG. "THE NICE GUY" IS NOT OFTEN HEARD SO...I THOUGHT I WOULD LET US BE HEARD FOR ONCE!!!
SO PLEASE READ:
People interact with other people for various reasons. Some people just like to screw you and leave, some people like to use you, some people, they just dont want to be alone and some people...just have high ideals about being "coupled" where anyone who will accept them, will go with them. And there are some people who have this whole gargantuan list of expectations of thier "ideal" man/woman. How the hell do people ever meet anymore these days, its what society has delivered to us, and we are the byproducts of confusion when it comes to the opposite sex.
It's natural to be lonely when you are single. People always say you need to love yourself first. You know what I think? What the hell does that mean? I mean c'mon, who litterally doesnt know the meaning of loving youself. You are you, you lived as you all your life. Sure you might not like all aspects of you, but thats you, it is this and nothing more. There comes a point in a person existance, where the ability to desire someone, who can remind you, that you are great, and to prove this, is the fact that they like you, or love you. And if they see something you dont, usually they point it out, and maybe, just maybe you might believe them, about yourself, and to them this is what it means when people say you complete me, you make me want to be a better person.
Before, not long ago, it used to be that a guy, who was..."nice" was revered, and sought out for by the opposite sex. And you know why, we have this programmed belief that chivalry is vitally important to the whole courting ritual. But you know what? This belief has worked for the last 1000+ years. But today, people dont nesssicarily "need" someone to rescue them, to be that "knight in shinning armour" I mean really, when is that last time a "nice guy" needed to save a damsel in distress from a would be devouring princess dragon. Nowadays...people have this in the back of their minds, but...its just an ideal, it's not nessicarly what people want anymore. People are more inclined to turn their heads for chivalrous "knight" and look to the "bad boy" so they can feel quite the opposite of chivalary, cause who they are, the bad boys here, are something exciting, something that spices up their lives of the mundane "mr. nice guy" who is very predictable, the man who will open your door, who will bring you a rose, for no other reason than to see you smile.
Bad boys, they know women crave them. They are usually sleek and clean or grundy and usually talks with vain promises, ones that women like to hear. Sometimes they are genuine, most times they are like this: "find em, fuck and flee" and move on to their next conquest. And where does that leave the women who have been sodomized by them? Heartbroken. Now where does that leave us? Well, usually...when we hear these stories when we talk to the women in our lives, we try to be there for them...to tell them it will be ok...to show compassion and understanding. And we are labeled as a "friend" rather than someone who is trying desperatly to tell this woman he cares about them: "HEY IM HERE! I WONT HURT YOU, let me be the one you love", but we move from boyfriend matrial to "the friend zone" where women dont want to ruin this wonderful understanding relationship they have with this male counterpart. It's really a paradox. Where do men stand, what are they supposed to say, to do, to act, to love or care, or forget all their beliefs and turn into one of "them" cause "they" seem to get all the women, that we care about. This is why relationships in this day and age, is very very difficult my friends. Next time you see someone, be it man or woman...please take into consideration to "tread lightly on the others heart" its fragile these days.
IF YOUR A WOMAN, LET "THE NICE GUYS" IN YOUR LIFE KNOW THAT YOU "WOMEN" STILL CARE AND IF YOUR A "GUY" ... AND YOU HAVE FELT THIS WAY... WELL, LET THE "WOMEN" IN YOUR LIFE KNOW THAT THERE ARE "MEN" THAT STILL GIVE A SHIT!!!!!!