My Personality & Love style
Your Personality Type:Idealist
Opening the world to new possibilities
As an Idealist, your mission in life is to make the world a better place. You bring a unique combination of skills that make you a capable diplomat, advocate, and champion of those in need. You care about big ideas and big issues, but you're also dedicated to the lives of the people around you.
In many ways, you're the ideal friend or co-worker. You have great empathy skills. You give sound advice, but more importantly, you know when to just listen. At work, you're a natural leader, facilitator, and energizer. You have a gift for promoting harmony and cooperation at work. In fact, few things bother you more than conflicts at work.
Your hopes and dreams are very important to you, so you take other people's dreams seriously, too. Your friends and family know they can come to you for a booster shot of support and optimism, whether it's for pursuing their dream job or dream man or woman. Similarly, you can motivate teams and organizations to pursue more meaningful objectives.
Most people have goals and dreams, but you're more likely than most to actually achieve them. You have a clear idea of what you want in life. You anticipate and plan around obstacles, and you're a sharp problem solver. Plus, it's pretty darn hard to discourage you.
Idealists come in many varieties, from the academic to the applied. You have the capacity to balance both the ideas and the pragmatics. Only you know what you'll do with your many talents. Ultimately, whether you touch the world, your community, or simply your closest friends and family-it's Idealists like you that give us all the inspiration to dream and strive for something more.
What Sets You Apart?
The most important thing in the world to you is your relationships. You're happiest when you're spending time with your close group of friends and family.
You're a visionary thinker who can imagine the future and plot out a strategy for getting there.
You're overly modest at times and tend to sell yourself short.
You're very independent and proud of your self-reliance.
Your Love Style:Spontaneous
Love should be fun and natural; if it's not, you're probably not doing it right.
To you, love is a natural part of life. It's something to be enjoyed without analyzing it to death. You may love many different types of women during your life- each in a somewhat different way. However, chances are they all will start with great sexual chemistry. You may get close to some of them emotionally too, but not every time. For you, love can be unpredictable that way. At times, you may even fall in love with women you otherwise wouldn't even like!
More so than any other love style, Spontaneous styles are in touch with the playful side of love. If problems come up, you would rather reinvigorate the love with fun and spontaneity than to "work" through the issues. You're not looking for a lifetime commitment out of every love anyway. Ironically, because you're not possessive about love, you may actually provide an environment where both partners can relax and be themselves and maybe become more attached than they ever intended.
Your approach to love can change over time. Physical passion may become less crucial and commitment more important. However, for now your "style" of loving has these common features:
Love means sharing your life completely with someone. Her friends and family become your friends and family, and vice versa. Love requires sacrifice, and at times this means giving up parts of your own life so you can share a life together.
Good sexual chemistry is an important ingredient in creating a lasting love. You're not a purist who thinks love is a saintly connection between "friends." You want a lover who connects with you body and soul. Of course, sexual passion can wane over time, so ultimately, affection and companionship must also be key ingredients.
True love requires total commitment. Love can grow only in the safety and security that monogamous commitment provides. Relatively early in dating, both partners should know and talk openly about whether the relationship has lasting potential.
Idealists in Love
Idealists often struggle with the Spontaneous love style. Idealists focus on the future and the pursuit of big dreams, in contrast to the "one day at a time" approach to romance that a Spontaneous love style encourages. Still, both approaches share a common enthusiasm about life and the belief that things will ultimately work out for the best.
Good and Bad Fits
It's important to be compatible not only in how much you love each other, but also the way the two of you love:
- A man who values Spontaneous love, for example, will be most happy with women who share the same approach or who have a Passionate love style.
- However, you'd probably be frustrated trying to connect with women who seek Sensible or Destined love, because they're more focused on forming a long-term relationship. These styles also put less importance on a strong physical connection.