Before you dispense words of wisdom to a troubled friend, read this.
Just a friendly reminder for all of you with good intentions...^_^
1. Yes, there IS such a thing as calling a spade as such.
2. And there are things as EXCUSES, which should be pointed out and addressed.
3. However, when you try to offer solutions, the same solutions, repeatedly, and your friend is resisting...
...is it because you're offering solutions that won't work based on his/her given situation?
...because your solutions don't take into account his/her internal conditions? Not necessarily personality disorders, although they may be.
But it could be your friend is going through trauma, depression, or both, and you're not, and your mental state is vastly different from your friend's at the moment. And there are many factors that your friend hasn't, or have chosen not to, share/d with you.
...is it because s/he already processed your advice, but is having difficult executing them because s/he is not ready yet? And "ready" is very, very subjective?
~*~
What I'm saying is, and I'm guilty of not following this as well: be careful in offering the same advice repeatedly.
Your friend is already processing your advice/solution. It wouldn't be difficult for your friend if s/he wasn't processing it at all, subconsciously or consciously.
Even if your cynical (others call it realistic, LOL), sound mind is focused on the facts, your friend is trying her/his best to solve the situation.
Give your friend space and time. Remember, everyone doesn't think in the same way as you.
And do be conscious if you're being repetitive.
1. Yes, there IS such a thing as calling a spade as such.
2. And there are things as EXCUSES, which should be pointed out and addressed.
3. However, when you try to offer solutions, the same solutions, repeatedly, and your friend is resisting...
...is it because you're offering solutions that won't work based on his/her given situation?
...because your solutions don't take into account his/her internal conditions? Not necessarily personality disorders, although they may be.
But it could be your friend is going through trauma, depression, or both, and you're not, and your mental state is vastly different from your friend's at the moment. And there are many factors that your friend hasn't, or have chosen not to, share/d with you.
...is it because s/he already processed your advice, but is having difficult executing them because s/he is not ready yet? And "ready" is very, very subjective?
~*~
What I'm saying is, and I'm guilty of not following this as well: be careful in offering the same advice repeatedly.
Your friend is already processing your advice/solution. It wouldn't be difficult for your friend if s/he wasn't processing it at all, subconsciously or consciously.
Even if your cynical (others call it realistic, LOL), sound mind is focused on the facts, your friend is trying her/his best to solve the situation.
Give your friend space and time. Remember, everyone doesn't think in the same way as you.
And do be conscious if you're being repetitive.