MY FINAL WORDS ON THIS BLOODY ANNOYING SUBJECT.
For the record, in case people have the wrong idea:
I do not, repeat, DO NOT, want to get back together with a certain ex-boyfriend, much less STEAL him away from whoever he's seeing currently. My searching for closure has nothing to do with getting back together with him, seducing him, flirting with him or trying to get close to him. I do not do any of the above, and it would be an insult to me and to Desmond to suggest or to even think that I'm attempting a reconciliation.
I only miss his friendship, I only miss our conversations, and that is the only reason why I still talk to him. BECAUSE I'M TRYING TO BE A FRIEND.
I DO NOT WANT TO GET BACK TOGETHER WITH HIM.