I read your last post, and I wanted to comment on it, but I don't see it anymore, so the comments to this post will refer to a post I think you wrote a couple of days ago.
Its tough to be a part of a distancing relationship especially when the distancing is not on your terms and for reasons you may not agree with or even understand. Its easy to resent and feel victimized, but I think that is too simple of a reaction. I don't know the correct way for you to handle it, but I think its always best to be honest, but also to be supportive. If someone is moving on, you have to do your best to support them and let them do what they think is best. Try to understand their perspective and offer insight on what is best for them and for your relationship with them. If you make it about yourself, you will alienate them and possibly lose their trust.
Often when things lose their meaning, I think you have to first question where did their meaning come from when they were meaningful? If something is meaningless now, why was it meaningful before? Often you will find something was more meaningful to a different version of yourself. A less mature or maybe understanding version of yourself.
Its tough to be a part of a distancing relationship especially when the distancing is not on your terms and for reasons you may not agree with or even understand. Its easy to resent and feel victimized, but I think that is too simple of a reaction. I don't know the correct way for you to handle it, but I think its always best to be honest, but also to be supportive. If someone is moving on, you have to do your best to support them and let them do what they think is best. Try to understand their perspective and offer insight on what is best for them and for your relationship with them. If you make it about yourself, you will alienate them and possibly lose their trust.
Often when things lose their meaning, I think you have to first question where did their meaning come from when they were meaningful? If something is meaningless now, why was it meaningful before? Often you will find something was more meaningful to a different version of yourself. A less mature or maybe understanding version of yourself.
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