Kind of a dilema?
Let's say you're going to get married. You have a good friend who you'd like to be your bridesmaid but you know that she's really strapped for cash. You know if you ask her, she won't turn you down though she may end up eating PB&J for 3 months straight to save for the dress and the parties/showers. You feel bad about burdening her with the costs of being a bridesmaid, even though she says she can handle it. You consider not asking her to be a bridesmaid to spare her, but you're afraid if you don't ask her, it'll hurt her feelings. What to do?
Something kind of similar happened to me before. A good friend of mine had a last minute bachelorette party in LA. She didn't invite me. In fact, I didn't even know she had a party until some random high school friend at the wedding told me about it. I admit I was a bit butthurt. The weird thing was, I had dinner with her before the wedding and asked her if anything new had been happening. She didn't mention the party at all even after the fact, like she wanted to keep it hidden. Had she mentioned then that she had a last minute bachelorette party in LA but didn't want to trouble me with going, I would have been fine with it (because quite honestly I wouldn't have gone anyway). My friend later explained that she just didn't want me to take time off work and feel obligated to go. This was the same thing she said to another friend who was actually living IN LA at the time so I don't even know... (Living in LA friend was majorly butthurt.)
Anyway, the point is, that even though I probably wouldn't have gone to the party, I had a gut reaction that our level of friendship should have afforded me an invite anyway. Logically it's very unreasonable to have such a reaction, yet I find that a lot of people react the same way. So say my friend was sincere in not wanting to trouble people to attend what she said was a "dumb last minute thing", how should she have handled it? Is there even a right answer? Maybe she handled the situation right, are we just oversensitive? After all, it's her party, she can do as she damn well pleases.
In other non-pseudo philosophical ramblings...
- Fruit picking is fun, but only if you don't over gorge on fruit while walking in the orchard and give yourself the runs.
- Note to self: Do not wear grey when it's hot. Pit stains galore. Duh.
- Rog wtf happened? SMH. Was looking forward to another epic Rog/Nole showdown.
- Nole needs to stop channeling his 10% fail!Novak against Tsonga. Actually nervous.
- Go Muzz? Go Rafa? I'm conflicted. Muzz might be easier to beat, but beating Rafa would prove Nole deserves to be #1...
- I hate Discover. They're always screwing me out of my 5% cashback bonus and I keep having to email them and demand they fix it. Being thrifty has never annoyed me so much and yet that extra 4% keeps me asking for more. Argh.
Something kind of similar happened to me before. A good friend of mine had a last minute bachelorette party in LA. She didn't invite me. In fact, I didn't even know she had a party until some random high school friend at the wedding told me about it. I admit I was a bit butthurt. The weird thing was, I had dinner with her before the wedding and asked her if anything new had been happening. She didn't mention the party at all even after the fact, like she wanted to keep it hidden. Had she mentioned then that she had a last minute bachelorette party in LA but didn't want to trouble me with going, I would have been fine with it (because quite honestly I wouldn't have gone anyway). My friend later explained that she just didn't want me to take time off work and feel obligated to go. This was the same thing she said to another friend who was actually living IN LA at the time so I don't even know... (Living in LA friend was majorly butthurt.)
Anyway, the point is, that even though I probably wouldn't have gone to the party, I had a gut reaction that our level of friendship should have afforded me an invite anyway. Logically it's very unreasonable to have such a reaction, yet I find that a lot of people react the same way. So say my friend was sincere in not wanting to trouble people to attend what she said was a "dumb last minute thing", how should she have handled it? Is there even a right answer? Maybe she handled the situation right, are we just oversensitive? After all, it's her party, she can do as she damn well pleases.
In other non-pseudo philosophical ramblings...
- Fruit picking is fun, but only if you don't over gorge on fruit while walking in the orchard and give yourself the runs.
- Note to self: Do not wear grey when it's hot. Pit stains galore. Duh.
- Rog wtf happened? SMH. Was looking forward to another epic Rog/Nole showdown.
- Nole needs to stop channeling his 10% fail!Novak against Tsonga. Actually nervous.
- Go Muzz? Go Rafa? I'm conflicted. Muzz might be easier to beat, but beating Rafa would prove Nole deserves to be #1...
- I hate Discover. They're always screwing me out of my 5% cashback bonus and I keep having to email them and demand they fix it. Being thrifty has never annoyed me so much and yet that extra 4% keeps me asking for more. Argh.