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[picklemeister17]

so I've been doing some more thinking (when there's precious little to be doing, it allows plenty more time for thinking)

and I've realized something. I always fall for the wrong girl. ALWAYS

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[withopenarms___]

I think the idea of the "wrong person" for me is more like...
I could date someone & have something come between us,
but while it clearly doesn't make them the right person,
I feel the "wrong" person for me is someone that
causes me a significant amount of pain/emotional distress,
not just immediately but leaves a negative effect in the long run.

For instance: dating someone for 6 years that
repeatedly chose drugs over me....wrong person.

[picklemeister17]

Well yeah...the whole causing of pain/emotional distress is definitely a criteria for being the "wrong" person.

I suppose the whole point of my entry though is that I have come to realize that normally if there were circumstances that were preventing two compatable people from dating, I used to just dismiss any possibility. Now I realize that those circumstances don't make it an impossibility, it just makes them "the wrong person" but also I've learned that being "the wrong person" isn't always a permanent thing because, as I said, circumstances can always be tweaked.

Not to say that your point wasn't valid, cuz it definitely was, I just guess that my ideas and conclusions I drew from this post may not have come through as clearly as I had hoped. Or maybe you were just commenting on a tangent that is very related to my post. Either way =)

[withopenarms___]

I see, I see.

Also, I think that I'm kind of complicated in the fact that
I need someone who's thiiis close *makes pinching gesture*
to being the "wrong person", and who I will fight incessantly with,
and who will seem severely & irreversably screwed up & wrong for me.

Because that, as sick as it is, is the "right person" for me.
God, I digust myself.

[picklemeister17]

aww...well thats no good.

mebbe you should work on that and broaden your "right person" horizons =)

[withopenarms___]

I kind of like it though, as weird as that sounds.
Having someone I fight with constantly,
is a weird way of proving affection.

And not fighting in the "GOD you annoy me" kind of way,
but in the actual fighting sense, I feel kind of accomplished,
like "Hey, you fight with me constantly,
but you love me so much you stay around anyway."

I don't think I'd feel satisfied if it all came easily.
Where's the passion in that?
But regardless of the amount of fighting,
I need to know that they will have an unswerving devotion to me,
cause if I thought for a second during the fighting
a guy would be willing to find someone else, it'd be all over.

I'm really screwed up.

[picklemeister17]

I suppose I can understand what you mean.

I don't think that that's the best way to handle things.

But then again, I'm rather lacking in expertise in that area, so my opinion is slightly less valid.

And you're not really screwed up, you just have a different way of handling things. If you're really screwed up, then so is everyone else.

[withopenarms___]

Well maybe that's not the best way to handle things for YOU, but like you said, everyone needs something different. I also need the guy to be the dominant one in the relationship. I HATE HATE HATE guys leaning on me and acting like...I dunno what the word is...like GIRLS.

I just need a fight in a relationship, like a little bit of a struggle to keep it interesting.

Maybe I'm just kinky or something, I dunno.

[picklemeister17]

Whoa killer..breakin out the "k" word. lol

But that aside..I totally understand where you're coming from. I feel that. Troof.

Course, I don't *totally* agree with you that there needs to be a dominant one in a relationship. I don't think either the guy or the girl (or the guy and the guy or the girl and the girl as the relationship dictates) should be averse to leaning on each other. I think leaning should be done by whomever needs it. If its the guy, so be it. If its the girl, so be it.

But ya know, its like we've both said, to each his/her own.

[withopenarms___]

Well, I'm not saying a guy couldn't lean on me emotionally, I meant physically. Granted, emotionally, I don't want a pussy either, but I don't mind if someone wants to open up to me, that's kind of encouraged.

But I've had boyfriends that like, put their head on MY shoulder or lay on MY chest and like...physically assume the role of a girl and it like...I dunno it makes me feel weird about my femininity.

I dunno, I personally need someone to be dominant in the relationship, at least a little.

[picklemeister17]

OH.

see I thought you were talking strictly emotionally.

physically, yeah I totally agree with you. in that regards someone needs to be dominant, otherwise wtf is going on. lol

[withopenarms___]

My last bf was 6'2" and still would put his head on my shoulder. I was like WTF GET OFF ME YOU PUSSY.

[picklemeister17]

wow...that is pretty lame. you shoulda owned him in da face.

that'd learn him

[withopenarms___]

Well I dumped him...if that counts.

[picklemeister17]

Yeah, I'd say that counts.

Cuz now you're free for a more manly man to come on in and sweep you off your feet

/flex /flex

XP

[withopenarms___]

You're so subtle, really.

Nah, I think I'm to the point
where I need someone named Spike
who is like...a hitman or something. =P

JUST KIDDING.

[picklemeister17]

You know me...subtle is totally what I'm all about ;) So long as the point gets across.

And ya know..I always have favored changing my name to Spike and becoming a hitman. XP