Re: My Response To Your Response in Lesbian Law School.photosynthetikAugust 17 2007, 02:28:26 UTC
i don't think questioning things is a bad thing. in fact, i think the real danger lies in accepting what others hold as truth without thinking about it for ourselves.
that being said, i don't think there's anything wrong with being confident in an identity. and if you're confident in yours, that's great. the thing is, you have no idea where that person is coming from. and don't they deserve the right to state their own identity just as you do yours? how would it (does it) feel to you to be faced with assumptions that others place on you that aren't necessarily true?
but honestly, what really prompted me to comment was the rather insensitive nature of your comment. can you see how it might not have been the most supportive or helpful comment, given the poor kid's situation? i mean, she just got kicked out of her mom's house. that's kinda rough.
i don't pick fights or start arguments just for the sake of doing so. in fact, the people who know me will say that i avoid conflict, sometimes to the point that it's not exactly healthy for me. which means that i thought that it was worthwhile and useful to post my opinion regarding your statement, not just so that you know how i feel, but so that others reading do also. and so that maybe that kid will struggle a little less trying to live up to some cookie cutter role or identity and spend a little more time figuring out who she really is. i spent a long time trying fit into identities that really weren't me, with the end product being a lot of angst and self-loathing, with a bit of personal growth thrown in to the mix.
so, that's a little about where i'm coming from. how about you?
that being said, i don't think there's anything wrong with being confident in an identity. and if you're confident in yours, that's great. the thing is, you have no idea where that person is coming from. and don't they deserve the right to state their own identity just as you do yours? how would it (does it) feel to you to be faced with assumptions that others place on you that aren't necessarily true?
but honestly, what really prompted me to comment was the rather insensitive nature of your comment. can you see how it might not have been the most supportive or helpful comment, given the poor kid's situation? i mean, she just got kicked out of her mom's house. that's kinda rough.
i don't pick fights or start arguments just for the sake of doing so. in fact, the people who know me will say that i avoid conflict, sometimes to the point that it's not exactly healthy for me. which means that i thought that it was worthwhile and useful to post my opinion regarding your statement, not just so that you know how i feel, but so that others reading do also. and so that maybe that kid will struggle a little less trying to live up to some cookie cutter role or identity and spend a little more time figuring out who she really is. i spent a long time trying fit into identities that really weren't me, with the end product being a lot of angst and self-loathing, with a bit of personal growth thrown in to the mix.
so, that's a little about where i'm coming from. how about you?
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