UT and a new start
"Samantha, will you marry me?" I had said the words to myself dozens of times, but it was finally time to say it to her.
I developed a surprise engagement plan where she would go to these different places where we've been and spent time together, find letters from me with a picture inside posing with different letters and such. Eventually it would spell out Marry Me!
At the end she would join me at Romeo's where I would be at the piano playing our song "Heaven" when she comes in, then I'd say a few words and ask her to marry me.
I had all the plans drawn up, 5 full pages and diagrams and maps of how it would go down, but then I hear that she's going to Dallas and that she wouldn't be back till the afternoon on the day of our anniversary! That's not enough time with Austin mid-week traffic! So I gave up on that day and had no intention of proposing to her, postponing to a weekend two weeks down the road.
I did go to see her on our anniversary though still, (how could I not) at about 5pm at night. Upon my arrival, though, I teased her with the ring box and she eventually told me that I should propose to her on that day because it's our anniversary! I told her I would propose since it's an important day for us and said I would sidetrack the plan I had for her for a week or two while I got settled in my new school. She said that it wasn't even important I had that plan as long as I proposed.
I thought about it for a few moments. I had initially wanted to ask her NEXT year, 2009 or even in 2010 during our graduation, it all seemed too soon. I kind of felt that she didn't love me completely, but couldn't have known for sure because of the distance we had gained over the past several months. But, she has arthritis and loans.
If she were to marry me, she would get free medical benefits via the government. She had gone almost a year without insurance since turning 19. I had seen her cry, her blue eyes welling up, that she was afraid that if she got injured or something ruptured, that she would be in trouble. I spoke with a medical program from Austin and he said that, upon our marriage, she would be entitled to full free insurance. With her pre-existing condition it's too expensive for her to pay out of pocket and it was time to ease her worry. I also wanted to protect my future wife.
The second reason came from her mother. Her parents now divorced changes her financial aid for the worse. Her aid goes down for her school, but with Samantha and I wed, we would have nearly zero expected family contributions. She would get full school low interest rate loans where she goes to school. Being that it costs well over 16k a semester (32k a year) at her residence there, it is important that any debt going in to the future be as low interest as possible. These are some great reasons and since I'm looking at her in the long term....
"Should I ask her?" Well, she wants it, and I want it, and it's both to our great benefit to do it now, why not?
I did.
I asked for her hand in marriage on our 3rd year anniversary of the first time we were together. Moved right up to the fountain at her school, I got down on one knee, told her how much she meant to me, and she accepted. We took pictures of it as well (her idea/camera)! She knew 2 weeks in advance because I had asked her to choose a ring.
A few days roll on by, me thinking everything is great, happy that I've found the person I'm going to spend the rest of my life with, (here comes the dreaded, "and then") and then (see! there it is!) she comes to help me move into my dorm. I noticed when I gave my initial "hello" peck something was terribly wrong. She told me that she wanted to wait until after the moving was completed. I wanted to know then, and I bit off more than I can chew. Not only did she not want to get married, but break off any relationship with me once-so-ever.
I had been practicing our piano song for weeks diligently trying to prepare myself for the big stage, but every once in a while I would take a break from that song to play "It must have been love" by Roxette on the piano. I really like her singing and it sounds great coming from a piano.
"It must have been love but it's over now. It was all that I wanted, now I'm living without. It must have been love but its over now. It's where the water flows, it's where the wind blows."
Fate, it seems, is not without a sense of irony.
Why did she do this? Who knows what women's hearts are full of. Apparently, there's very little wrong with me. I'm kind, caring, loving, not completely unappealing to the eyes, intelligent, and open emotionally. Plus, I'm always happy (with the exception of my partner breaking off an engagement of course).
The only charge she's brought against me was that I would ask to see her regularly, per her availability. Completely flexible about it as well, I wanted to be her salvation from her campus, not her damnation. I knew that when she was with me, she would get support, care, attention, and told she was beautiful a million times over. I had no idea I had done so much damage.
Single and looking? Nope. Just a single guy. It appears that my classes are going to take up a huge chunk of time. It's doubtful that I'll even have time to think about that part of my life anymore.
I moved in last Saturday and went to orientation today. Everyone is so bright and cheery, from all over the world. I am sort of a minimalist at heart. The less material possessions and the less I have to worry about, the better. Living in a dorm allows me to live that life.
My roommate is named Karan. He's a great dude. I'm going to enjoy living with him. He's much smarter than me, but he'll hopefully be available to help me out with any calculus problems I have. We are similar in some ways: no drinking, drugs, partying. Neither of us blast music, snore, and we're both heterosexual. I just hope I have a similar roommate for the fall/spring.
Main complaint thus, the beds are terrible. I can't sleep on them, but I'm sure sheer exhaustion will allow me to sleep on them some nights! Other than that, just waiting on the cafeteria to open so I can test the food out. Should be interesting!
I developed a surprise engagement plan where she would go to these different places where we've been and spent time together, find letters from me with a picture inside posing with different letters and such. Eventually it would spell out Marry Me!
At the end she would join me at Romeo's where I would be at the piano playing our song "Heaven" when she comes in, then I'd say a few words and ask her to marry me.
I had all the plans drawn up, 5 full pages and diagrams and maps of how it would go down, but then I hear that she's going to Dallas and that she wouldn't be back till the afternoon on the day of our anniversary! That's not enough time with Austin mid-week traffic! So I gave up on that day and had no intention of proposing to her, postponing to a weekend two weeks down the road.
I did go to see her on our anniversary though still, (how could I not) at about 5pm at night. Upon my arrival, though, I teased her with the ring box and she eventually told me that I should propose to her on that day because it's our anniversary! I told her I would propose since it's an important day for us and said I would sidetrack the plan I had for her for a week or two while I got settled in my new school. She said that it wasn't even important I had that plan as long as I proposed.
I thought about it for a few moments. I had initially wanted to ask her NEXT year, 2009 or even in 2010 during our graduation, it all seemed too soon. I kind of felt that she didn't love me completely, but couldn't have known for sure because of the distance we had gained over the past several months. But, she has arthritis and loans.
If she were to marry me, she would get free medical benefits via the government. She had gone almost a year without insurance since turning 19. I had seen her cry, her blue eyes welling up, that she was afraid that if she got injured or something ruptured, that she would be in trouble. I spoke with a medical program from Austin and he said that, upon our marriage, she would be entitled to full free insurance. With her pre-existing condition it's too expensive for her to pay out of pocket and it was time to ease her worry. I also wanted to protect my future wife.
The second reason came from her mother. Her parents now divorced changes her financial aid for the worse. Her aid goes down for her school, but with Samantha and I wed, we would have nearly zero expected family contributions. She would get full school low interest rate loans where she goes to school. Being that it costs well over 16k a semester (32k a year) at her residence there, it is important that any debt going in to the future be as low interest as possible. These are some great reasons and since I'm looking at her in the long term....
"Should I ask her?" Well, she wants it, and I want it, and it's both to our great benefit to do it now, why not?
I did.
I asked for her hand in marriage on our 3rd year anniversary of the first time we were together. Moved right up to the fountain at her school, I got down on one knee, told her how much she meant to me, and she accepted. We took pictures of it as well (her idea/camera)! She knew 2 weeks in advance because I had asked her to choose a ring.
A few days roll on by, me thinking everything is great, happy that I've found the person I'm going to spend the rest of my life with, (here comes the dreaded, "and then") and then (see! there it is!) she comes to help me move into my dorm. I noticed when I gave my initial "hello" peck something was terribly wrong. She told me that she wanted to wait until after the moving was completed. I wanted to know then, and I bit off more than I can chew. Not only did she not want to get married, but break off any relationship with me once-so-ever.
I had been practicing our piano song for weeks diligently trying to prepare myself for the big stage, but every once in a while I would take a break from that song to play "It must have been love" by Roxette on the piano. I really like her singing and it sounds great coming from a piano.
"It must have been love but it's over now. It was all that I wanted, now I'm living without. It must have been love but its over now. It's where the water flows, it's where the wind blows."
Click to viewFate, it seems, is not without a sense of irony.
Why did she do this? Who knows what women's hearts are full of. Apparently, there's very little wrong with me. I'm kind, caring, loving, not completely unappealing to the eyes, intelligent, and open emotionally. Plus, I'm always happy (with the exception of my partner breaking off an engagement of course).
The only charge she's brought against me was that I would ask to see her regularly, per her availability. Completely flexible about it as well, I wanted to be her salvation from her campus, not her damnation. I knew that when she was with me, she would get support, care, attention, and told she was beautiful a million times over. I had no idea I had done so much damage.
Single and looking? Nope. Just a single guy. It appears that my classes are going to take up a huge chunk of time. It's doubtful that I'll even have time to think about that part of my life anymore.
I moved in last Saturday and went to orientation today. Everyone is so bright and cheery, from all over the world. I am sort of a minimalist at heart. The less material possessions and the less I have to worry about, the better. Living in a dorm allows me to live that life.
My roommate is named Karan. He's a great dude. I'm going to enjoy living with him. He's much smarter than me, but he'll hopefully be available to help me out with any calculus problems I have. We are similar in some ways: no drinking, drugs, partying. Neither of us blast music, snore, and we're both heterosexual. I just hope I have a similar roommate for the fall/spring.
Main complaint thus, the beds are terrible. I can't sleep on them, but I'm sure sheer exhaustion will allow me to sleep on them some nights! Other than that, just waiting on the cafeteria to open so I can test the food out. Should be interesting!